just found out

[danveloper]

hello Its nice to find a place I can talk to someone about this. I just found out I have herpes about 4 days ago and Im just stuck in neutral I don't know what to say or how to feel about this.

[officegirl]

Hey I found out a few months ago, I thought I had it undercontrol but it is now back, I am a mess and now single because I couldnt deal with the fact that my partner gave me it without even telling me.. how are things going for you?

[danveloper]

I have to got back this friday and get my complete results but i dont have a real outbreak. and I got it from a really bad decision in a sad state of mind. but since ive been reading and talking to people I feel better about this situation. thanks so much for replying it means alot

[kelly91]

Hey there

We're in the same boat, I got tested today and my doctor said there's a good chance of me having herpes. I have always been safe and my partner (now not) decided to leave. I'm still not sure if he is positive for it. He is refusing to get tested. Stupid right? But it happens to the best of us.

[Aubrey]

I was recently diagnosed. I laid in bed for a week, so depressed. Should I be mad at myself or the person who gave it to me? All I could think about was, "why me? I don't sleep around."

[kenbb]

Don't worry, things will be okay. I was just diagnosed, too. If you have a positive attitude towards everything, everything will be alright. These type of things happen to the best of people, the cleanest, the nicest. Like Aubrey, I don't sleep around either, it was just an unlucky way to get it. You're still an amazing person, and this won't stop you from living your life. You can still get married and have kids, and still date, and just simply LIVE. If anything, besides the annoying times when you'll get an OB, which will decrease after time, your life should get better, in fact. I know mine has. You'll learn to eat better, exercise more, and just cherish the times when you're healthy and not having an OB. All you need to start with is a positive attitude and everything will get alright. I know it's hard at first, but there are so many other people out there going through the same thing. You are not alone. Always keep your head up, and never let this bring you down.

Come into the chat and talk with everyone. These people on here really helped me get through the shock of being diagnosed. It's all okay. You'll be fine message me if anyone wants to talk!!

[1234]

I have hsv 1 and I got it from the guy Ive been living with for the past 6 month. He gets cold sores alot, but i had no idea I could get genital hsv 1 from a cold sore! Its gross and uncomfortable. It makes me feel discusting. Like Im still having my first outbreak but i dont know how ill ever recover and have sex again.

[kenbb]

1234, I am almost the same situation as you. I have HSV1 genital as well, and got it from the guy I've been with for a while. He gets cold sores, so there was just not a lot of luck to happen to get it that way.

My first OB recently just ended, it was about a week and a half. Trust me, after it's gone you will feel a lot better. Nothing will change, you won't stop having sex forever. He should understand that with protection and suppressive therapy (if you choose to go on it) his chance of receiving it back genitally is VERY small. (Even though he already has the virus and gave it to you!)

Have a positive outlook on things. I'm only 17, I thought at first this would ruin my life, but it won't. What separates you from the rest is your attitude, and a good one will make you 10x better, I promise. Keep your head up, message if you want to talk, and hop on the chat once in a while, everyone there is extremely supportive.

[Guest]

I just got my first out break today... i got it from my ex and she got it from her ex before me... its tuff i must say not really sure where to turn or who to talk to .... what bothers me the most is i got tested and made her get tested and the results came back negative. well she had it , she got tested to early didnt give time for it to start its process. so we didnt really care for protection.... so i really cant hold it against her but its stressful and very depressing and honestly im scared. i was none of the guys who thought it would never happen to me cause i took all precautions guess it wasnt good enough... anyways glad i could tell people who understand how i feel thanks for listening

[kenbb]

It's really scary at first, mason. It's a freaky thing, even the cleanest of all people get it. You just have to be positive about it and know that it won't bring you down. You'll still live a great life. Everyone is here to help, especially in the chat. If your ever feeling seriously down, I'd head to the chat! You'll feel great after talking to those people! Good luck, and keep ya head high!