Newbeginning

[newbeginning]

My worst fear has come true. I have it. It's not going away and if I don't figure out a way to find piece with it and myself I am going to be miserable for the rest of my life. I don't want to grow old to end up alone and bitter.

I could use some perspective...

[norcallove]

Hi. Welcome to this site. There is a lot of really useful information to the right and a lot of supportive people on here. The chat room is also a great place to talk to people who understand what you're going through. I joined this site a little over two weeks ago basically right after doing some internet research when my doctor told me she thought I had H. I try to reach out to new people because a lot of people on this site helped me when I was sad, upset, confused, and felt lost. I can honestly say that I feel so much better now than I did two weeks ago. It does get better!! I have decided to remain positive and not let H control my life. I know it is really hard right now, but try to remain positive. There are a lot of people on here who understand what you are going through. It's hard - it is def. an emotional rollercoaster, but don't let H get the better of you. Just remember you are the same exact person as before, so don't let H change you or make you think less of yourself! You will only end up alone and bitter if you let yourself. As you will see on this site, people with H still live completely normal lives! A lot of people on here are even with, have been with, or married to a non infected partner. So there is hope. Yes, H can be annoying at times, but really its just a skin irritation. Don't let it be more than that. I hope this has help, I know hearing similar things have helped me. Take care! You can always private message me at any time if you want to chat.

[boopboop]

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Worst fear?

Would you rather have been told you couldnt have kids? have aids? have cancer? a crippling disease? lose a leg or arm?

Herpes doesnt stop you doing anything! If anything it improves you! You will be healthier, focus on yourself more, wont get into relationships with people that don't care about you. You'll go on to live your lift just as before!! just have a bit of irritation from time to time.

It could be a LOT worse.....

[AnaBella]

Hi Newbeginning. It does get better. It may not feel like it now but it does. Personally, I think it's okay to go thru those moments of despair but the trick is to treat them as moments...don't let it overtake you. I was diagnosed a little over a yr ago. Somedays it felt like I was never going to be the same. But eventually I turned a corner...I can't answer how or when, all I know is I got tired of thinking less of myself. The people on here are very supportive and informative. Believe that you deserve to be happy. Looking forward to getting to know you.

[newbeginning]

thanks for your words of encouragement. I would like to be able to join in on the chats but I am having problems doing so. I am also looking for members and support groups in my area. Ottawa, Ontario, Canada...

[norcallove]

\Personally, I think it's okay to go thru those moments of despair but the trick is to treat them as moments...don't let it overtake you.

I just wanted to say I really agree with this. I know in the past 2 weeks or so I have gone through a lot of emotions. While it is good to try to remain positive, I know it is an emotional roller coaster. We all get down/sad/upset sometimes, but in times like those this site and the other supportive people in my life have helped me and reminded me of all the good things in my life. Hopefully we have all helped you feel a little better.