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giftedgrl

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I'm lonely!!! I just really miss having someone in my life. I'm so freaking sick of the dating scene, herpes or no herpes. The guys I like don't call back, the ones i'm not into do, but then Ijust feel bad for rejecting them. SOme guys are seriously just disgusting pigs! I Recently went out with a couple of guys who are in the club, decent guys, but not for me. The holidays are coming, I have no plans. I know I spend way to much time by myself. But I'm sick of hanging out at bars, even if it is with my friends. I've been single for a long long time and I can't even remember what love feels like anymore. I'm cute, smart, funny, sexy, a good girl, just can't seem to make any connections. And now I feel like I'm just trying way to hard. It's been heavy on my mind lately, and felt like putting it out there. Thanks for reading...

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Hi giftedgrl,

thanks for the post. It's good to be able to be honest about where you are at in life.

I had a bad day yesterday too...everything just weighed so heavy on my mind. Seems like some days are three steps forward and two steps back. My Dad says there is a lid for every pot...you just haven't found your lid yet : )

Hang in there.....love just seems to pop up when you least expect it.

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hey girl, don't feel too bad. that is my story exactly. single for almost 2 years, and out at the bars looking for love...meeting guys who you think are nice, but turn out to liars and bastards! and yes all the ones that did like me, I was just not into. I got my heart broke too many times until one day a few months ago, I just gave up! I didn't care anymore. I got busy in work, my daughter, music, things I love...and when I did meet guys I didn't get hopeful, just put them off. Doing this, draws people (especially guys) to you, because you're busy! and I am also smart, sexy, funny, and a good girl who deserves a good guy. turns out one of the guys that asked me out during this time period, turned out to be pretty decent...things are going very well, this may even be my first real "boyfriend" since the last one 2 years ago...because things are equal for once. so moral of the story is: don't give up, but just give up for awhile and they will come to you! hope this makes you feel better, cause I was thinking this same thing 3 or 4 months ago. and when you do meet him, take is SLOW. act very nonchalant for awhile....

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Sorry you're feeling down, giftedgrl. I'm in a similar boat though! I'm sick of going to the bars and meeting dumb guys who are immature. We all deserve to be loved and to find someone who is a genuine person. As cheesy as this sounds, I believe there is someone out there for everyone and they come along when you least expect it. Keep your chin up!

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I'm right there with you. I am 56 yrs old, have had genital h. for over 30 yrs, and, I have days and nights like this, esp. during holidays. I want so badly to find Mr. Right, but no one wants me with this dread disease. and, the H. dating sites haven't proven helpful either. No one in my area worth having. I hate to think I will be alone for the rest of my life! Sorry, I am really depressed right now. I need to shut up before I pour out more

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