Im also infected

[CMM79]

Hi,

Im infected by my fiancee with hsv2.

I did not cheat on her, and she said she did not

cheat on me but i never got it for 2 years and after a outbreak 2 weeks ago

i let myself get tested and im positive.

I dont know what to do

[MsLucy]

Sometimes it takes a while to pass the virus from one to another, even if you're not taking precautions. Two years is not unusual. It took me much longer to contract it from my partner.

I know it's disappointing to be diagnosed with herpes, but she's your fiance. You're getting married. At least you won't have to worry about dating, having to disclose to prospective partners, or passing it back and forth between you. If you're going to get herpes, getting it with someone you plan to spend your life iwth is about the best circumstance you could ask for.

Try not to be discouraged. This isn't going to affect your lives together. It's just one more thing you'll share, and if your fiance has had it for a while, she'll help you through it. I'm sure she has some knowledge and experience about how to make things go a little smoother for you.

These feelings you're having now are normal. It's kind of scary at first, and it bums you out, but these feelings will pass. Concentrate on the life you're planning together, and how good it's going to be, because it really will be. This won't change that.

It's going to be okay... honest.

[norcallove]

Hi. What kind of test did you get? Did you get a culture and a blood test? The virus can be dormant for years. You might have actually had this before you even met your current fiance. She might have also had it for a long time and is asymptomatic (I'm assuming - you didn't say if she had symptoms or not) and passed it to you through viral shedding. Furthermore, either one of you could have had a minor OB before and just didn't realize it. There are a lot of possibilities. HSV is not checked for during routine STD checks, so its hard to know if you just got it. What I'm trying to say is - although you have been with her for 2 years and you just had an outbreak - that doesn't mean she cheated. There are people on this site who have got it years after being married to someone. Did you fiance get tested as well?

Hang in there! This site has a lot of great information to the right and supportive/knowledgeable people on it. Take care.

[package deal]

it possible your fiance did not know she had H. a small amount of H suffers show no symptoms or she may have ignored syptoms thinking it was something else and truely did not know. Give her the benifet of the doubt she may just be telling you the truth.

[RealisticGal]

it possible your fiance did not know she had H. a small amount of H suffers show no symptoms or she may have ignored syptoms thinking it was something else and truely did not know.

Actually, it is the majority of those with genital herpes who are asymptomatic. The ones who have symptoms are the small number. That is part of the reason it is spread easily.

[CMM79]

Hey all,

Thanks for the replies!

I just had a deep think about everything and it would be stupid

if I think that she did something bad. She still want to give up

everything to be with me so I trust her. I think we will grow

stronger because of this issue, life isn't always easy but thats

part of the lesson. Im a bit more relieved that she already tested

for hiv now and was non reactive. Saturday she will go to the lab

to test for clamydia, herpes and cervix checkout. I read that the

hsv2 can cause cervix cancer and that is not cool.

norcallove > I did a swab test, but I did not see the results on paper.

But wednesday I will get tested for all things, and ask for a blood herpes test.

[Bababooey]

Didn't you mention in another thread that you found her profile on a dating website? And didn't she tell you the profile was old and that she lost the password, but you discovered she just added a "friend" to it 2 months ago? I don't mean to be blunt, but I would be careful just how much trust you put in her. She has already proven her ability to lie to you.

[RealisticGal]

I read that the

hsv2 can cause cervix cancer and that is not cool.

HSV2 does not cause cervical cancer.

You are thinking of HPV -- the human papilloma virus. That's a very typical point of confusion.

There are many strains of HPV. Some cause warts, some can lead to cancer. But the good news for women is that a yearly Pap smear can find the pre-cancerous lesions while they are easily treated.

It is said that virtually everyone who ever has sex will be exposed to HPV --- it is that common.

[CMM79]

Thank you for the reply RealistiGal, I read somewhere that it could

cause cervix, that's at least one less worry

[RealisticGal]

It is possible, though not proven at this point, that herpes simplex virus could be a co-factor in cervical cancer.

But it is human papilloma virus that is the actual cause.

Researchers are trying to determine if having both might make it more likely for cancer to actually develop. But without human papilloma virus in the mix, it isn't even a question. I've never seen any suggestion that herpes simplex actually causes cervical cancer by itself.