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Hi. I responded to one of your other posts. I am newly diagnosed as well, so I understand what you're going through. You can private message me if you need to talk. Also, you can join the chat room and talk to people in there. :)

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Thank you so much for your response.

Its bothering me a lot that I just got herpes and not earlier in the 2 year I been

with her.

When I confront her she tells me she never had something like it.

Now she says I got it from her, and she got it possible from her ex.

The doctor also thought it would be wise to test for everything including

HIV. Im seriously broken, I would get marry to her next year but now I

don't even know if I want to go on. I also found a profile on the net of her

where she was looking for 'dating men' and when I confront her she said that was

from her past and that she did not have the password anymore.

But the last time she added a so called 'friend' was last october this 2010.

She still says she loves me, but I dont know what I feel currently.

Im so scared I might have HIV too

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i feel like shit, can't eat can't sleep. I even love smoking weed and now i dont even want to do that. My life has gone to shambles and i'm trying desperately to maintain, I have a young child to raise. So where do we go from here?

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Well for me its the second day that I was diagnosed with HSV2, and I just go with

the flow. It sees so much people have it and its not always sure how you

got it. From what I read I also could have it for years and be unlucky to have

my breakout after some fun with my fiancée. At least she did the HIV test already and

that was negative. Although I still have my sore and did not take any meds, its not

one of the worst things I had. I just had flu and some wounds on my you-know-what.

I admit that it hurt pretty much, especially after the blister thing break open, but

at least we are not the only one. Just try to be positive

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Hey CMM79- you have a great attitude about staying calm and making the best of it. I can definitely learn a lot from that :)

Hey thanks nycgirl87!

Just try to be positive okay :)

Another day further and im still doing ok, I just dont want herp to control my life.

I was just freaked out when I heard it and I started to educate myself in this kind of thing.

Im glad the first outbreak is most of the times the worst, hehe.

So keep your head up and keep breathingggggggggg!

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Hey thanks nycgirl87!

Just try to be positive okay :)

Another day further and im still doing ok, I just dont want herp to control my life.

I was just freaked out when I heard it and I started to educate myself in this kind of thing.

Im glad the first outbreak is most of the times the worst, hehe.

So keep your head up and keep breathingggggggggg!

Glad you are continuing to feel better. Its been almost three weeks for me and I have felt better everyday :) I think we all go through the freak out at first. Especially since there is so much stigma and misinformation out there. Take care and keep feeling better!

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Hey norcallove- you are definitely right about a freak out. It just shakes you up! The stigma is the worst, but I find the more people I tell, the less air I let out the balloon of stigma, so to speak :)

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Glad you are continuing to feel better. Its been almost three weeks for me and I have felt better everyday :) I think we all go through the freak out at first. Especially since there is so much stigma and misinformation out there. Take care and keep feeling better!

That's true, a lot people think people get herpes if they do bad things a lot.

They are just misinformed or don't know about how herpes works.

I'm a pretty open person and I told some people I got herpes and how easy people

can get it, it's good to see that everyone who knows shows their support.

I still go with the flow, the only bad thing is that i read its better not to eat

stuff that contains arginine, but I work out a lot and need to drink my whey protein

shakes. I just check how long it takes before I get a new small outbreak. I also don't

want to use medicines because the pharmaceutical industry already earns enough lol.

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