wow now i really feel dirty

[dinki]

I just got an IgG blood test done and i was told i have antibodies for both HSV 1 and HSV 2! when i was diagnosed by culture they told me i had HSV 2! i have never had a cold sore in my life and apparently i have both like wow! i am so close to losing my mind! does that mean i have HSV1 genitally as well as HSV 2? like how long did i have both? somebody pls take my life!

[boopboop]

Technically you are a) VERY LUCKY! and in a very big majority with over 70% of population having hsv1 and 25% having hsv2. Only 1 in 4 shows symptoms though..thats why its spread so easily! Hsv1 tends to prefer the mouth are and hsv2 the genitals but they do swap about! Herpes isnt dirty at all...just another annoying virus like chicken pox etc that spreads so easily. Do some research and talk to your doctor if you have any questions. This will allow you to avoid you ever showing symptoms and spreading it.

x

[dinki]

NO i am not very lucky! i am repulsive and should not ever kiss or be involved in anybody to prevent spreading this to them! i was in a relationship with someone and 2 days after sex i ended up in the hospital and they diagnosed my cuts as type 2 genital herpes i was still coming to terms with that and then he got tested did a blood test and they said he had type 1 so i obviously got type 1 from him but where the hell did type 2 come from? and have i spread this to him cos i thought we both had the same thing? i am so fucking confused! like why does this virus exist! why why why? why did i even do that stupid IgG test i wish i never did now i feel extra dirty!ughhhhhh

[ihavit2]

i feel the same.

[abfab]

wow..

im not even going to try talking about how in time, you dont feel so awful about it.. i know you are not in the mood to hear it..

it doesnt make sense at all right now, i know..

i have no clue how long ive had it, i found out recently that most std tests dont include this one, because its so common most dr.s dont feel it matters.. planned parenthood doesnt even test for it!

this explains why a huge percentage of people are walking around with it and have no clue...

boopboop is saying youre lucky because it seems like while you have it, you didnt even know it meaning no outbreaks, no pain and all these terrible things we hear some people experience..

its totally controllable, or manageable i should say.. just about the only part of having this that concerns me is the whole dating part.. sadly, i do think i have been dating while i had it and didnt know it, but now i know..

so do i think sometimes ill end up the crazy lady with 100 cats that i talk to all day when im 70.. sure.

so i also know that in reality, at the end of the day- this is a skin condition and while it can be 'catching', you can make sure you dont spread it!

sex with a condom brings it down to a 2% transmission rate.. a condom with a drug like valtrex or acyclovir, its down to 1%..

so while im sure youre far from even being able to think about telling your next partner about it and all that, just know that the more you know the better.. and the more calm you are about it, it sets the tone..

just take some deep breaths and realize it could most certainly be much, much worse. seriously.

[dinki]

I appreciate all your kind words but i actually did get this from my ex and had a primary outbreak that prompted me to get a diagnosis and i do have symptoms. This is why i said i wasn't lucky! im def not one of the asymptomatic ones thats for sure!

I am on suppressive therapy but i will much rather practice celibacy as i am too scared to give someone this thing that i have and im not interested in telling anyone i have it either.

I hope one day i can get to the place you are at with being able to accept this virus. thanks again

[wastedhousewife]

The 1 in 4 game

I am so sorry that you have had this blow - I know how hard it is to imagine having a normal life again. Just please remember that you are not alone - 1 in 4 people have herpes. When I'm out in public now, I almost always pick groups of 4 people and decide which one is in our club. It always makes me realize that there will be people I can be with without any fear of being rejected, and that herpes is something that so many people are dealing with.

I hope that you take some time to remember that herpes is not all you are about - all of the qualities that you have had your whole life are still with you. Do not let a diagnosis define who you are. Once you get past this initial shock, I promise you will go on to have the same life you were meant to have. Take the next few days off of worry and enjoy Christmas - you deserve it!

[Maria93]

You cold have had something a lot worse like AIDS you are lucky. This time is hard because you just found out (so did I.) and I feel horrible as well but you can only move forward try not to worry because what is done is done.

[starlet]

i feel your pain dinki. im as angry about havin HSV2 as you are and also feel like practising celebacy as i do not what to be associated with this horrrible thing which i feel is going to ruin my life.

im so angry and its all i think about WHY DID I GET IT WHYYYYYYYYYYY

[ihavit2]

me too dinki n starlet. you ladies are not alone. what's done is done is a HORRIBLE thing to say.

[Amalia]

I have had cold sores since I was about 3. Thats over 40 years now and it has never been a big deal. Last week alone, while doing some Christmas shopping, I came across 4 people in stores that had cold sores. It is really common. By the age of 50, 80% of the population would test positive for hsv1.

Now, since March, I have ghsv2. It was a tough blow but I am coming to terms with it. I have gone through different phases over the past 10 months and I definitely understand angry. I also understand the "why?" thing too. I don't have any magic words of wisdom except that things to ease over time. Hang in there : )

[ihavit2]

Aww Amalia. Damn girl. Wish there were something I could say to you.