Dating with herpes...

[Boomba]

Hi guys just stumbled upon this site.

I'm not sure if I have herpes. I thought I did, and got a negative test result. Then my boyfriend after half a year broke out with similar symptoms. We've never had sores, just breaks in the skin that look like cuts. I had a couple clear blisters, and he got very small red bumps .

He said if he did get it, it's not a problem for us, and that I didn't do anything wrong, but I just feel awful. It's possible we'll get married, but if we don't, I want to imagine that he'll be able to have a very happy sex life.

So what's the dating scene like for someone with herpes? How open minded are people about it? Is there a way to find other people who have it, so there's no big deal?

[stephxo]

Hummel welcome. This is a great site for support and information about HSV. Sometimes those tests are not always accurate. I was diagnosed with GHSV-1 from a visual exam which is the best way to determine if you do in fact have HSV. I had a culture taken from an active OB which then determined what type of HSV it was. Next time either you or your boyfriend have symptoms, I'd go see a doctor immediately. Normally, this is a great site for support. There's a lot of people who have had success with dating and live normal lives. HSV is very common, something I did not know prior because of the social stigma. If you and your boyfriend do in fact have HSV then it's important you both don't play the blame game. HSV affects many people at different times and some have gotten this from someone who did not know. Look around the forum as well as the sidebars for more information. Research has really helped me out a lot! Best of luck

[Boomba]

Thanks sc!

It's kind of a problem that our symptoms are so mild. It's hard to get to the doctor's in time. I guess it's time to do buckle down and research it. It's kind of a depressing thing to look into, but what can you do?