Hey Guys Need support

[allyuk]

Hi there I am a 25 year old male, recently diagnosed with HSV-2 after a one night stand, I feel deeply ashamed and disgusted with myself, I have overcome the 1st outbreak, and recently have just flared up again, I am currently taking Aciclovir and it worked really well at dealing with the first outbreak which was really painful!

I just now feel like a walking disease and that I will not be good enough for anyone, I am scared of passing it on to my son, by touching him I would say that I am at my wits end over this.

This virus is horrible I just hope oneday there is a cure, pelase let there be a cure oneday

In need of help and support urgently

[d00m kitty]

awwwwwwwww hugs allyuk, what you're feeling & experiencing is normal. I'm sure you're practising good hygiene, hand washing & so forth? I have a 5 & 1/2 year old daughter, so yeah, I know how concerned you would be.

There's lots of great info on the right hand side you can read >>>>>

I'm hoping for a cure too!!

xx

[gossamer]

allyuk! you are not, nor will you ever be a walking disease!! I just got diagnosed with HSV-1 but it's on my genitals, so I totally feel your pain about that first (horrible) outbreak. I'm a 23 year old female, and the stigma that is carried with the term "herpes" is terrible (especially around our age), but really its just another one of those hurtful stereotypes. Everyone in their lifetime will know, and/or love someone with herpes; whether they know it or not. It's that prevalent.

The bright side here, is that from all of the information that I have read (which is a lot) it looks like the first year or so is the worst. Your immune system will start to suppress the virus by its self, and you could be virtually symptom free. Are you keeping yourself healthy? I've noticed that eating better, drinking less alcohol, sleeping enough, and taking some anti-herp vitamins seems to help me.

And try to be positive! (haha, no pun intended ) There are SO many people out there like us, and with the antiviral medication available, as well as the wealth of knowledge out there, your life (and mine) can be entirely normal. Herpes is just a virus, don't let it be a defining factor about you. Make sure you're well informed about the virus, so that you can explain to potential partners about it...if you meet someone who connects with you on a deeper level than just sex, y'all will find a way around the herp. Hey, if you want to you could even check out www.positivesingles.com or the like, if even just to find people in your area that know what you're going through.

Modern medicine needs $$$ to find a cure, that seems to be the main concern with herpes research. Fortunately, there are quite a few virus' out there that need curing, and have a lot more funding behind them. (AIDS, HIV, Lyme disease) So we can all be hopeful that sometime in the near future, there will be a cure. Till then, just be thankful for your life...cause it's a beautiful thing!

[allyuk]

Thanks for the support, I do agree though there is alot of stigma associated with this condition, but I will take something postive from the experience it will make me a much more honest person, And I will respect any future potential partner by getting them to understand that there is a possibility that I can give them the virus.

Am I really in danger of putting my son at risk? this is the thing which plagues me on a day to day basis i'm just scared that when I pick him up i'm going to transfer the virus to him. I told my ex about it the other day she basically put me in such a mood I just felt like ending everything I thought whats the point anymore.

[Bababooey]

You definitely do not have to worry about putting your son at risk by picking up or playing with your son. HSV requires skin to skin contact with the infection site. Since I assume your HSV is genital, the affected area of your body SHOULD be covered with clothing when you are playing with your son. As an added precaution, make sure you wash your hands frequently, especially after touching sores during an OB.

If i makes you feel any better, I have been with my girlfriend now for 3 years. She is negative. We live together, have sex, sleep nude, hug, hold hands, kiss, and do all of the things couples do. She knows I have HSV so she is tested regularly, and still remains negative. You are most contagious during an active OB, so just take a few extra precautions during that time and the risk of passing it to your son is almost zero. If you also have oral HSV, make sure not to kiss your son or share glasses/utensils with him if you have a cold sore.

Make sure to read the Herpes Information Library to the right. It has A TON of good information that should help put to rest the myths, and hopefully put your mind at ease.

[allyuk]

Thanks for the advice Does any know any free std dating sites? like ones in which you do not have to pay to sign up for? thanks

[Acrobat]

dude u will not pass it to your son, postivesingles is ok to start, but i just date regular people now, i dont have a lot of time to write but trust me this aint the end of the world. trust me!

[CREAMCHEESE007]

Allyuk, im a 21yr old female and was diagnosed feb of 09 with genital herpes and yes the 1st outbreak was terrible. But a year later and alot stronger i know that its just a disease , not me. It will never be my main characteristic. Another thing you dnt have to wrry about ur son, herpes cn be transmitted without a great amount of bodily fluids. Just continue to take care of yourself as far as hygiene, diets, etc!!! This is not the end, but yet the beginning of something special....life!!!!

[allyuk]

Currently going through my second outbreak, it's not that bad can't feel anything!, the first outbreak was hell it was like passing razor blades when I went to the toilet, then when I first noticed the sores i was like jesus what the hell is wrong with me!

But now meh, it's a virus wont define who I am, it'll make me stronger, If people judge me it's simple just say least I know my sexual history when was the last time you got a check up? most people in this life are ignorant and dont even bother.

I have worked out when I am due a ob I get a tingle downstairs, May sound stupid but hey i'm actually happy in a way I have this virus, it will define me make me respect people and in the end make me a better person i'm not going to let it grind me down there is no point

[alexS]

Well shoot man, im a guy just as you, at least were not gettin killed right? Yea i no it sucks but you gotta hear it from someone, its just herpes come on man. Its just another shitty thing that happens. Just live ur life dont dwell on stupid stuff cause you have a life to do cool shit with man, dont be ruinin that. You cant really controll after you have it just gota suck it up and deal with it sadly, but you gota make the best of it homie.

[allyuk]

Well said Alex, At first I was annoyed but now it's like why even waste the energy on worrying about it? I we flare up we deal with it doesn't make us bad people lifes to short, infact think of all the people out there worse off, starvation, Aids, HIV, I consider myself lucky and it would be selfish of me to sit there and moan 24/7 by the way is anyone on facebook? obviously I wouldn't post on your wall about HSV-2 lol obviously only in private chat but would be kool to meet some new freinds

[allyuk]

Bump does anyone know of a dating site in which you do not have to pay? it appears that the positive singles one you have to pay to contact members? thanks

[CREAMCHEESE007]

What i meant to say allyuk was that herpes cant b transmitted without a great amount of bodily fluids. Just clearing that up. But yes i do agree, this virus has made me grow respect for a lot of me but most of all myself. I think if this hadnt happen then i would probably be less aware of the different viruses out. Maybe even still sleep with the one i contracted it frm without protection. I'm wouldnt prefer it but its actually very helpful. It has given me stability, and i now will not settle for less than i deserve..

[elmerette]

What i meant to say allyuk was that herpes cant b transmitted without a great amount of bodily fluids. Just clearing that up. But yes i do agree, this virus has made me grow respect for a lot of me but most of all myself. I think if this hadnt happen then i would probably be less aware of the different viruses out. Maybe even still sleep with the one i contracted it frm without protection. I'm wouldnt prefer it but its actually very helpful. It has given me stability, and i now will not settle for less than i deserve..

blessdandloved1,

Not trying to correct you, but you DONT need bodily fluids to pass herpes. It is spread via skin to skin contact. Thats why you can spread it if your shedding in your genital area (boxer shorts area). Just wanted to let you know.