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irstenkay Honeycomb Member

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Hi all,

I don't normally post to forums, but I need to know I'm not a total loser. I am just kicking myself for getting this, and I'm a blubbering mess. I know it's not a death sentence, and I know there are millions of people with it as well, but....I don't know...I feel like I can't talk to anyone because they would be judging me. I'm confused, depressed, sad, angry....

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Hi. Welcome to this site. There is a lot of helpful information to the right and a lot of supportive people who understand what you are going through. First of all, you are not a loser. You are the same great person you were before your diagnosis. I know that it is really hard emotionally right now, especially since you just found out. I can honestly say it gets better. I posted something similar over three weeks ago - that I was sad, angry, confused, etc. I already feel so much better and have maintained a positive attitude. Don't kick yourself for getting this. There are a lot of people who have H. I believe it is like 1 in 4 for females and 1in 5 for males. So basically 20-25% of people have it genitally. You are not alone. I know it is hard to believe now, but this isn't the end of the world. This site has helped me understand that. There are tons of people on here with H and they all live normal and fulfilling lives. They haven't let a skin virus take over their lives and change it. I've actually read that it changed most peoples lives for the better. They started living healthier lives and being pickier about who they date. A lot of them even date people who don't have H. You can talk to all of us on here, we will not judge you, we're all here for you. Take care and let me know if you ever need to talk. :)

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You are not alone - one of the first people I told was my best friend - and she has apparently had it for years and been keeping it a secret. It is unfortunate that so much stigma is involved, but I promise you that it will get easier. I am sorry that you are finding this out now, and I hope that you feel well enough to still enjoy the holidays. Spend time with family and friends and remember that you are still the same wonderful person you have always been. Herpes is a minor inconvenience, and one that you share with many, many people.

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omg

The same thing happened with me!!!!! I was besides myself with grief. I told my best friend when i first had symptoms. After i got the results from my test i was inconsolable for about 3 weeks. She kept calling, texting, etc. Finally I agreed to have dinner with her. The first thing to come out of her mouth was " I got the s???t too. I was floored. I UNDERSTAND how you feel because I am in the same situation. Hopefully it will get better soon.

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Thanks everyone! I really appreciate your kind words. I know I will feel better as the reality sinks in and I get used to it, I just wish that time would speed up :-) Have either of you dealt with this when dating? Have you had people not want to date you because of it?

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I haven't had to deal with it with dating really, but I had my first OB after dating my BF for 4 months. He has never had any symptoms. I had to tell him that I had been diagnosed and he immediately said nothing changed and he still wanted to be with me. He didn't care about it at all. He was been very supportive and if anything we're actually doing better than ever. So, while I haven't had to tell someone I just started dating, there are people out there who will accept it. :)

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thanks again! another question: I understand that the first outbreak is the worst, but is there any way to predict the frequency of subsequent outbreaks? I'm assuming it varies with everyone?

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thanks again! another question: I understand that the first outbreak is the worst, but is there any way to predict the frequency of subsequent outbreaks? I'm assuming it varies with everyone?

I just finished my first OB, so I don't know personally about subsequent OBs. I do know that everything with H seems to vary from person to person. The best advice I can give is take care of yourself - get lots of sleep, eat healthy, workout, etc. There is a lot of great information to the right that talks about good vitamins to take, a healthy diet, etc. Good luck!

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