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I'm so thankful that I have a wonderful fiance who I can talk to about all of this but I'm just curious.... Do you tell your family? What about your close friends? I just wanted to know if people are open about this and how do you tell them? I'm feel so embarrassed about this but Im not sure if it would help me cope to be open about it. I feel almost obligated to tell my friends that the Drs don't normally test for this! I had no idea that they didn't!

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Don't feel embarrassed. Herpes for the most part is a very common, mostly harmless virus. Did you know 80% of the adult population has hsv?

And why tell any family or friends? It is none of their business. The only people you are obligated to tell are those you are intimate with, and since you have a fiance it looks like your days of giving the 'talk' are over.

You cannot pass this by sharing towels, cups or toilet seats. So what business is it of anyone else's that you have this?

Come to the Chat Room, there you will find many nice Herpsters who can offer you their support.

Good luck!

JB

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Don't feel obligated to tell them. Herpes is not something you have to tell the world. Only people you are intimate with honestly it's no one elses business. Only tell them if you want support etc.

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You are under no obligation to tell your friends or family. I told my friends just because we are very open and they just shrugged and said "it's no big deal". I just don't see the point of telling anyone else unless we are having sex.

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I just found out two days ago, first outbreak about 2 weeks ago. I haven't told my parents, but have told my sister and a few friends, and my partner knows and is also supportive. Can't decide if or when I will tell my parents. I did explain to the people I did tell that I thought I had been tested long ago but that test usually isn't part of the typical screen at my doctors office.

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Thank you everyone for your opinions! I think I'm going to keep this between my fiance . The only other person I've told was my best girl friend. When I told her this she seemed just as shocked as I was when I heard. I also told her that Ita not something they normally screen for and to make sure she gets checked. She apparently already knew this since she had a scare a few years back, she said " you would be suprised how many people have herpes"... She didn't look at me any different after untold her. It flet good to get it off my chest.

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