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Just wanted to say hello to everyone this site has tons of info and some very positive and hopefully people. I hope to join you guys in the near future. I just found out lastnight i tested positive for HSV-2.

I freaked and went to my doctor and then to the derm and they both stated it was molluscum contagiosum scrapings came back as HSV-2...... I just dont know what to do with myself my life been totally dominated i feel by this. I started dating someone on the 9th of this month.... we talk for 4months before we did anything. We went on vacation for a week, i come back i that i had razor burn. I had shaved my pubic area right before the trip, and now it seemed like my ingrown hairs were popping up. Went to the doc and then to the derm they said molluscum contagiosum, scraping test said other wise....

I told her i went to the derm and i told her what it was she seemed familiar with it, she said her little sisters actually have it. She said it will go away that sometimes when her sister is over she sleeps with her and she has never gotten it.

I didnt have the nerve to call her lastnight, i dont know what to do we are suppose to met in January after xmas........ But i dont want to wait that long to tell her, but i dont want to tell her over the phone either. And i dont want to have her drive out to see me or meet me halfway to tell her something like that????? How should i tell her any help.

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Welcome tanglewood

When I got my 1st OB & I'd been to the doctor [wasn't confirmed via tests just visual] I phoned the guy I had slept with immediately!! I was in agony, I was in shock and well I needed to talk to someone I suppose!! I was very freaked out on the phone!! That's probably an example of how not to do it, LOL

Maybe you do need to tell her on the phone? But just be nice & calm about it? Easier said than done I know!! But at least you've had some time to digest it all & you're on here too.

Goodluck

xx

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I could tell her by phone..... but emotionally i want to be there for her if she cries or even wants to slap me, i really dont know if i could handle something like this over the phone, if i call and tell her this and she was upset to the point she hung up i would breakdown :-(. This a horrible xmas!!!!

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should i even do this before xmas????? should i get a second opinion????? i dont know what i should do but once i start down that wrong theres no turning back!!!!!

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But on the other hand i dont want to have her drive 6 hours to meet me halfway and drop a bomb on her like this... Maybe me being there is being selfish i dont want to have her away friend family and friends when i tell her this but i cant drive all the way there.

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oh gosh...........this is really doing your head in hey???

You're right, once you start down that road there is no going back...............you're already on it though...............

How did you get your test results? By swab or blood test or both?

And geez, you two are a fair distance apart too. I'm not sure if there's ever such a thing as a 'right time' to say anything such as this. Yes it's almost Xmas, then it will be New Year, then ???? How involved are you two? I'm still thinking given your situation you just may have to phone, the other options/choices aren't that practical?

Another thought too, the sooner she is tested herself the better. There's nothing to say [from what I've read so far] that says she's negative? There's always the possibility that she may have given it to you?

Another reason for having those blood tests ASAP!! If it's brand new exposure the blood test should come back negative, if it's been around for a while [4 weeks, 4 months, 4 years, whatever] then it would be positive.

A swab & blood test is a great way to go. If the swab is positive & blood negative, then it IS a new recent exposure to the virus.

There's no easy way around this, I really feel like you need to phone her & just be honest, say what's happened.........

hugs

xx

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They visually said it was molluscum contagiosum, they also did scrapings thats came back positive. So your saying if she takes a blood test early on and it comes back positive that she already may have had it. I guess i will break it to her today, i have never felt this bad about anything my how life, i really liked her, i mean i still do. I will keep you posted on how today unfolds:(

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it would also be a good idea for you to have a blood test too!! And yes, she 'may' have already had it. It may be that you both have it already?

The test results don't mean the end..........be positive..........you're welcome to PM me too if you like, goodluck xx

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I just told her, i know she wasnt happy but she diidnt hang up on me, i feel like i just killed someone i really do!!!!! she said she was gonna call her doctor to get tested i asked her would she call me back she said yes.

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oh it sounds ok tangle really..............you've done the right thing. It's not easy having to tell someone, but you have, and I think it's pretty positive really. Like you said she didn't hang up & she's going to call you back. It'll be ok, xx

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i think we started having symtoms at the same time, i just talked to her and she said she was having pains while peeing. She thought it was just from my size and her being tight, i though the same i thought i had kinda rubbed myself raw thats why it was painful when hte hot water was hitting it.

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oh thank goodness you did phone her tangle, cos now she has an idea what the problem may be & get help from the doctors ASAP. In my case, I had no idea what was going on at all............and it was quite a shock when the doctor did tell me.

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I could tell her by phone..... but emotionally i want to be there for her if she cries or even wants to slap me, i really dont know if i could handle something like this over the phone, if i call and tell her this and she was upset to the point she hung up i would breakdown :-(. This a horrible xmas!!!!

wtg. Yoour a good guy. I do not know who gave who what but for you to tell her in person is very supportive. proud of you. let us knopw how it goes

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It went good linda i feel so much better knowing that she knows and that she doesn't hate me for it and actually had positive feedback on this that could help us.... She a great person. We dont know who the bandit was but once we talked about it we pretty much were having symptoms at the same time.... No one thought it was herpes so we just chalked it up to something else.

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