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I have ulcers on my vagina and also one on the corner of my lip. I have not gone to the doctor but im sure I have herpes because I don't think anything else has the same symptoms. Anyway I am extremely upset. I can't eat sleep or talk to anyone. I have a wonderful boyfriend who is not infected who is very supporting. But part of me feels one day he will leave me for someone who does not have this virus. I got the virus before meeting him but just got my intital breakout 6 months after sex with the infected person. Now my question is does it sound like HSV 1 or 2? I really need the support right now I feel disgusting and as if my life is over.

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Firstly, we cant tell you what type you have... need a blood test/swab for that :) Herpes can come as a bit of a shock at first... but the more you learn about it the more you will realise it's not a big thing as long as you don't make it a big thing!

Over 70% of the population gets coldsores and 1 in 4 gets genital herpes....Quite a few people on here have both! Is just a medical condition that is nuisance once in a while!

Your just an unlucky statistic!

I caught herpes before my current bf and he's supportive...he understand its just one of these things that gets around..... like a cold...its not your fault! Many people go on to live better, healthier lives after herpes....

For my it made me realise how much my bf loves me, how I am so lucky the Doc didnt tell me i had hiv or couldnt have kids!!!! Is a little reminder that you could wake up one day with MUCH WORSE!! so stop moping about...get some vitamins, suppressives if you chose to and love your bf as much as he loves you and go out and party.... herpes is just a little pebble on a long long journey!

I'm not promising it's easy at first...you will feel angry, ashamed, feel like you've lost a part of you.... but you dont have a condition that stops you from doing anything except sex for a few days!!! It can be managed easily!

Some things to read : http://theherpesblog.com/ < had herpes 20 years and never passed it on...and happily married.

http://SpecialUser1234.com/ < 15 years, married and never passed it on

http://www.hpositive.blogspot.com/ < 4 months diagnosed..might be able torelate to what your feeling now!

If you feeling rubbish take some time out to chill, watch some films, pamper yourself, read up on vitamins and medication, visit the doctors.....and come in chat if u have any questions!


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I agree with the posters who are encouraging you to go in and get definitive laboratory tests done for diagnosis. You may be right, but on the other hand, herpes mimics many other conditions (and vice versa). Even trained doctors don't always get a correct diagnosis by visual exam --- about 20% of the time that is wrong.

So run, quick like a bunny while lesions are still fresh, to get a swab/culture done. A type specific IgG-based blood test at the same time would be a good idea, too.

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This is how I have coped with my "situation", by telling yourself you're disgusting for this will only make things worse. You have to be strong and tell yourself that It happened, now I have to deal with. What are the steps in dealing with it? Knowledge, and research is the best combo. Out smarting your virus is the best. Knowing it better than it knows itself. Stuff like that will make things alot better. Remember, "The past isn't what defines you, its the decisions you make after-ward's that do" ;-) Hang in there!

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      Hey @WilsoInAus ok thank you, I will do my best to move on and stop trawling forums haha. 
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      Hey @sgt98 but there is no feasible infection or outbreak to suppress and antivirals do not suppress an initial outbreak in any event 
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      Thanks @WilsoInAus I understand apologies for this but the only other thing I am worried about is that I did take a course of Famvir on day 1 as I felt like I was having an outbreak of cold sores and am worried that has suppressed the initial outbreak genitally 
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      Hi @sgt98 it is not feasible to obtain a HSV-2 infection from receiving oral sex - only HSV-1 is feasible but you've already got that and immunity from any further infection with HSV-1. You do not need any further tests for HSV. You're feeling regret, try to forgive yourself and calm down, let the rational take over. You know the answer here and it won't be long until you believe it too.
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      Hi @NerdP423 and welcome to the website. You raise a lot of points and I think the best way to address your concerns is add some comments at each key point. I've copied your note again below and added these comments in square brackets. I appreciate any insight (even speculation) as to what has been going on with me. I'm a 37y/o M. I last was intimate with a new partner on 2/11/2022, and a few days later started having a huge amount of discomfort in my face. [The first thing that happens though is that herpes causes lesions or at least some skin based disruption. Other symptoms are then related to the actions of the immune system responding to the virus. Without lesions, it is highly questionable that the ailment is related to herpes, yet testing is useful if you have concerns as you have done so.] About a month after that [herpes causes issues within days, if the first 'symptoms' are a month later - its extremely unlikely they are related to herpes], significant discomfort downstairs, however every test I have ever taken for HSV 1 and 2 has been negative. Here are the details: Face: Previously, some significant tingling and itching on the right side of my mouth, lips and chin (still there, but milder) [herpes does not cause general tingling and itching, it can cause a reasonably concentrated feeling of itch/throb from which a herpes lesion appears within hours]. Occasional hot flashes near my right eye, cheek and ear [herpes does not do this, it may be a immune response to something, or stress]. Sometimes it will feel like the skin is crawling on the right side of my face [herpes does not cause a general crawling sensation]. Never seen anything that looked like a traditional cold sore [that's extremely telling, even people with associated atypical symptoms will have experienced herpes lesions]. Occasionally, the left side of my face will have a momentary feeling of skin crawling, but it's so mild that I am not really worried about it. Downstairs: Thankfully, most of these are now milder than they were before. Occasional momentary pinch of pain at the base of my genitals. [herpes does not cause a general pinch feeling.] Aching pain in my boxer area (groin, leg folds) [nor this] Occasional feeling of cold in my boxer area, butt, or lower back. ( also in my shins and occasionally even my arms) [nor this] On 4/30/2022, I had been in discomfort for almost two months. I scratched an itch, noticed it hurt, and then checked - I did have an open ulcer down there. Took myself to the ER to get swabbed, came back negative. [If this was a PCR then this will be very conclusive.] Practitioner said it may come back negative because it was already open. However the lab report noted that it definitely didn't look like what you'd expect a typical first herpes outbreak to look like [how would the lab know??]. All blood tests negative so far. I had two western blots, the second one was nine months after exposure. [Two negative Westernblots!!! Many that's real convincing]. All other swabs also negative. I went to urgent care, because I know the timeliness of when the Swab is taken matters. One time, a swab was not done, because practitioner said it was folliculitis and wouldn't swab it (It was at my belt line). [Belt line is highly unlikely to relate to herpes.]   A blood test revealed I had low-ish B12 (technically in range, but at the very low end, especially for a man of my size). I had a series of B12 injections, and I am taking a B12 supplement. I am not taking any lysine or arginine at the moment. I was taking the Arganine to see if I could induce an outbreak. [This is irrelevant, there is no known linkage between herpes outbreaks and arginine/lysine intake - its a myth - and B12 infers nothing.] I think what I am asking is - has anyone here ever repeatedly tested negative over and over again over long period of time, before getting a definitive answer, be a positive test, or something else? [The answer to this is: Extremely few people with a HSV-1 infection and even more rarely HSV-2 test repeatedly negative on Westernblot and actually carry the virus. 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There are hundreds if not more than a thousand experiences on this website alone that are similar to yours that are truly negative for herpes I'm one of them!]  
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