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Hello everyone. Currently I am awaiting results for HSV2, but I need some help. Here is my story...

In October 2010 I experienced three small red bumps on the shaft of my penis. One at the base of the head and two directly next to each other in the middle of the shaft. The two close to one another itched like crazy for about 1 day. There was no discharge, blister or pain at anytime. After the two stopped itching, they both turned into minor scabs. This freaked me out.

I immediately went to the MD and told him my story. He stated that my story does not sound typical of Herpes but would like to examine what is left of the bumps. When he looked, he said, "Well, I dont know. You will need a blood test." I took the blood test at the beginning of October, about 3 weeks after the first signs of bumps. After a long four days, I received the phone call regarding my results. The nurse said the following:

My Igm test was .91 Indeterminate and my Igg was negative. This means you have a 50/50 chance of having herpes. I was told to come back in a couple months for additional testing.

I was devastated, but not overly concerned after reading about how the test is unreliable. So at this point life went on. Why? I have not been with anyone but my GF in 6 years. I had little concern.

About 2 weeks ago I felt some strange things happening downstairs. I looked under the hood and I had one small bump again close to the area on the middle of the shaft. Just like before. No pain, no itching, no blister, no discharge. However, I did feel some tingling in other areas on my penis, but no visible signs of anything abnormal.

Today the bump is gone, but a bit of redness is still there with some abnormal tingling and even moments of sharp pain. Again, no visible signs in those areas.

I went to the DR yesterday to get additional testing and I am currently awaiting the results. At this point I am almost positive I have herpes. Everything I have read points to this conclusion and the second DR I went to see is almost positive also by a visual examination of the remainder of the (so called) outbreak.

I have been with my GF for 6 years and have never cheated. Is it possible that I have been carrying this for several years and not know it? I don't ever remember having anything like what I have experienced in the last 3 months. Could this have finally came to the surface and showed its ugly face? I cant remember ever having a rash, bumps, ect...but I cant be 100% sure.

I am afraid either she infected me or I had it for sometime. All of this is a possibility according my DR. Is he correct?

He also said that if I have been carrying this for sometime, and never showed any signs of an outbreak, there is a chance my GF is not infected if she has showed no signs or symptoms the last 6 years. Is this correct also?

I cant find much info on these kinds of questions anywhere. I guess it is possible, but I am just not sure.

I am willing to just face the facts and tell her I have had it the whole time just to avoid the awkward conversation and possibly her saying I cheated when I did not. This is a disaster...I have no way to prove I did not cheat, and this does not help me.


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This could have been dormant in either you or her. It can lie quiet for years. It confuses the heck out of married couples that have been married and monogamous for many years.

You can tell her that you just had a medical issue surface and that you found out that this virus can be dormant for very many years. You could both get blood tests that are herpes specific so that you can know if you both have it now.

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