Just got the test results yesterday

[Leviathan255]

Well yesterday I called my doctor to get the results of the cultures they took. I love how the tell you what's negative first and then say.. but herpes came back positive. She was really nice and helpful and waited patiently for me to have questions, but when I couldn't think of any she said my doctor would be in today and I could call and talk to her. When my husband sat down next to me while on the phone I whispered the results to him and once I threw the phone down he offered a cuddle. All I wanted to do was cry, but my kids were home and I didn't want them to ask what was wrong. Yes my husband was supportive, we believe he either had a cold sore or was on the verge of getting on inside his mouth because he told me he saw one in there, but when I looked.. it was gone. The one thing I'm irritated about is all he said was, That sucks.. my poor baby and I guess we'll have to be more careful. Where is the Sorry?? *sigh* I don't even get to break down. School is out this week and I don't know what to say to my 9 year old when he asks.. why are you crying mom?

I do have a couple of questions to ask.. Well since my outbreak started I've become obsessive with hand washing, I had to buy some good lotion since my hands were getting chapped.. my question is this, sometimes I like to put my hands between my legs, over my pants though... do I need to wash my hands before touching anything? What about when my underwear rides up and I fix that? LOL I know I'm paranoid, but I have a 3 year old who comes up to my private area and sometimes he runs up to me and hugs and he's like right there.. I don't want him to get this too.

Also, it's been about 3 weeks since my OB started, it seems like the sores on my vagina have pretty much healed up, but I still have one on my thigh where it meets everything. Anyways, nothing has been hurting till yesterday, when my period was over and I stopped wearing a pad. Now it kind of itches down there and last night while going to bed, my whole area down there ached.. is that normal or am I going to get more sores?? Should I start wearing a pad again? Do you ladies wear them during an OB? Does it help or is it all in my mind that my period seemed to make things feel better...LOL

Bah, what a Christmas..LOL Thanks for listening to my rambles and crazy questions..LOL

[WarriorKing]

Normal soap and water on your hands, left there for a few seconds, after touching down there kills any virus present on your skin. No special scrubbing is required.

The virus cannot leap off your skin through your clothes and get to others, just like you can't walk on water. It just ain't happening.

This virus has been hosting on humans for over 4500 years. Over 70 percent of adults carry this virus. Your husband doesn't have to be more careful now. He can't give it to you again. Your body has already been developing antibodies against it. During the initial infection you don't want to be touching other areas, but it looks like you have been very cautious with the hand washing already.

And it is not your husbands "fault" that you now have this virus. As stated above this virus is very common, more so than the common cold. When it comes to this virus, humans are just like leaves that get blown about in the wind, and you finally got caught by the breeze. We are not "in control". It is sneaky and easily moves from human to human when they kiss or have sex, which is why it is everywhere. But thankfully, it is usually a very small medical issue in the lives of people.

[Leviathan255]

Thanks for the reply mrhonest I giggled a bit at the "it can't leap off your skin through your clothes, just like you can't walk on water" Thanks for that I also know that it's not my husbands fault. I don't blame him, and I'm sure he feels bad about the fact I got it down below. I guess a part of me was wanting to hear I'm sorry that you got it there. I dunno, I've been a bit emotional lately When he said we need to be more careful, I believe he meant so that we don't spread it to his genitals, since he just has it on him mouth. Is that even possible? Can he get it down there too if he all ready has it on him mouth? My doctor wasn't very helpful with all of my questions, some she was good with, but others.. well I dunno..LOL Thanks once again!

[Bababooey]

Yes, it is very possible that he can get it on his genitals, especially if you have sex during an outbreak. If you spend a little time reading through the threads on this site, you will see that there are many people that have both oral and genital. But if you are careful, you can definitely avoid passing it to his genitals. I have a friend that has genital HSV, has been married for 10 years, and her husband is still negative.

And just to reiterate what mrhonest said. This is a VERY common virus. I went to my Dr. on Monday and had a test done because my original test 5 years ago came back negative. She told me "Don't be alarmed if you test positive for HSV1. Almost EVERYONE I test around your age tests positive for HSV1." That was pretty eye-opening for me, especially coming from a Doctor that has done thousands of these tests.

[WarriorKing]

If this is not a new infection for your husband, especially if he has had it for years it would be extremely rare for him to get it on his genitals also. His body already has an army of antibodies built to prevent infection elsewhere of his same strain. If you were to have HSV2 and he didn't then yes he could get that from you. But it sounds like HSV1 went from him to you.

[Leviathan255]

Thank you Bababooey and mrhonest That helps me a out a lot! This is so new to me, and hard to deal with, but I know in time I will get used to it and feel back to my self in no time. Here's hoping that I don't get another OB anytime soon, so I can feel sexy again