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For thoughs who are new here is the back ground: I meet a man begain dating. Now he had herpies. He never told me. We used condums ( It broke a couple of times and slipped off) every time.

He only told me he had herpies after i complained about pain when i urniated or sat down. It was only then that he sat me down and told me he had herpies. I got diagnosed with gential herpies at the public health dept.

My boyfriend paid for the meds held me while i cried. I decided to stay with him because who else would want me , the virus made me feel dirty( no more) and because i still cared for him

while 2 days ago i was at his house and when i went to leave he told me I had some clothes i left there. He went to give me the clothes just one promblem.

The clothes are not mine. Their wemon clothing but not mine

That right he been seeing other wemon sort of passing the gift around. Aparently he did not learn a lesson

or maybe he does not care who he gives it to

i going back to the doc to be tested for other std to make sure he not given me anything else

I am so mad at myself for forgiviing him. Lessoned learned. Never forgive anyone again or give 2nd chances

I am angry and hurt

i mean why did i go back to him a month ago how stupid of me

IU never trust another man again

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JBnATL

Good think he is now an ex.

But don't give up home on all men. I always tell when I am in a relationship.

Come to the Chat Room, there you will find many nice Herpsters who can also give you their support.

Good luck!

JB

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Wine4one

i would want to kill him. how could he thats just not right. i hope you find love from someone that isnt a douchebag

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ty wine i like that term douchbag it made me smile

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smithyuk

hi i just read your thread my girlfriend didnt tell me until i asked her one night,

We had been drinking and we always used condoms and she was quite strict on this,

I asked her have you ever had a std and she then told me she got herpes 4 years ago.

Im angry and upset with her.

I was even contemplating stayimg in the relationship because we get on se well but I;m having real second thoughts now.

But i might be infected anway so i will i be settling for my girl friend because it seems easier than having to see other people ?

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Wine4one

why dont you go to a support group or something you might meet someone else there and do you have it on you genitals? because most people are ok with hsv1. i dont think you should settle i mean there are alot of us out there and alot of people willing to accept you for who you are

hi i just read your thread my girlfriend didnt tell me until i asked her one night,

We had been drinking and we always used condoms and she was quite strict on this,

I asked her have you ever had a std and she then told me she got herpes 4 years ago.

Im angry and upset with her.

I was even contemplating stayimg in the relationship because we get on se well but I;m having real second thoughts now.

But i might be infected anway so i will i be settling for my girl friend because it seems easier than having to see other people ?

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SEBASTIAN1965

Linda,

So sorry this happened to you...

I really did not know what herpes really was until I was diagnosed yesterday. And yes I do feel the way you said at the begining "Who would want me now"?

At times I cry and feel sorry for me, but then I also said to myself that it could of been worst.

Linda do not think about what you did or didn't do. Just take good care of yourself and test yourself for everything there is. Hopefully you are taking something now for the herpes.

I was diagnosed yesterday, but I went to the doctor last Friday and tested for everthing, I was most nervous about HIV than anything. All came back negative except herpes. I have never read so many things about this as I am doing now adays. You know you keep saying so many things, but the reality is what it is. Just before I read your post I was crying. I only told my BF, and he is getting tested tomorrow, he has no sign of it. We think that the blisters he sometimes gets on his lips might be Type 2 and not one, or maybe both. I am 45 yrs old, and was always afraid of these things. It happened and now I have to deal with it.

I am sure as times passes by things would get easier...

You posted this on 12/29/10-- I hope you have better news.... xoxoxx Sebastian

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Hurting67

I thought I was the only one that felt this way, I found out 1 year and 4 months ago. I feel dirty every day...try to scald the dirt off of my skin..I feel that way when I'm having a outbreak which I am right now. I hate this disease, however, I'm still with my partner but I find myself hating him for giving it to me. I'm the one that takes the meds EVERYDAY and still I'm the ONLY one that gets the outbreaks. When I told him I had it he claims he didn't know he had it but he still remains to be checked. I do know for a fact he has been unfaithful to me in the past and I think that is where my hate comes in. I feel like NO ONE else would EVER want me and honestly have NEVER felt so helpless in my life. I have NEVER been a hateful or angry person but now I have so much hate and anger and I don't know how to fix it. I will say I'm glad I found this website. Also, my family doesn't know and about 5 months ago I found out my 18 year old daughter has herpes. I feel like I will never be able to wash the dirt off of me. I notice I'm more emotional when I have a outbreak..I get quiet..take showers (very HOT)to remove the dirt and just want to sleep and feel like all hope is lost. I want to be able to help my daughter so I know I can't give up but I have to figure out how to help myself first.

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SEBASTIAN1965

Sorry to hear that, I think what you need to do is get rid of that bf of yours. That's the bigest dirt, not you. You seem to be a very nice lady.. Get rid of of the negative people around you, and that is that bf.Then help your daughter who I am sure need mom's help. Hope all work out for you.. :)

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