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unspokentruth

Being diagnosed on Monday I have many questions. The nurse practitioner who tested me was not friendly at all and pretty cold. I called her today about going in to talk about the questions I have and where I go from here and basically she said, "oh what that pamphlet I gave you wasn't good enough." I was like forget it.

I have a few questions...How do you know you are getting an outbreak? What does it feel like? How do you know it's not another infection and is an OB? How do I know when it is cleared up and I am safe to have sex with my husband? Do we always need to use a condom now? Thanks for any advice you can give.

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boopboop

Some nurses are not very informed on herpes...

Everyone gets different signals about obs...just have to wait and see... some people get tingling, burning sensations etc. I personally get symptoms of thrush :@

Is up to you and your husband if you use a condom... if this is ur first ob then it can take a while for the virus to fade...(1-2 years) so you might want to use a condom to minimise risk of your partner getting it! But it is up to you and your partner...also if you are on suppressive medication that decreases risk of passing by 50%. Many people go on to have amazing sex lives after H!

Best to wait about 7 days after a OB just to be sure!

Best to keep healthly and don't stress... you may never get another OB...

come in chat if u have any questions :) x

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Being diagnosed on Monday I have many questions. The nurse practitioner who tested me was not friendly at all and pretty cold. I called her today about going in to talk about the questions I have and where I go from here and basically she said, "oh what that pamphlet I gave you wasn't good enough." I was like forget it.

I have a few questions...How do you know you are getting an outbreak? What does it feel like? How do you know it's not another infection and is an OB? How do I know when it is cleared up and I am safe to have sex with my husband? Do we always need to use a condom now? Thanks for any advice you can give.

Try this fact sheet taken from the right there under the Symptoms tab - this should give you some good info

http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/herpes_symptoms.htm

If you have any more questions, just holler!

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As for using a condom... of course it's a personal choice, but the fact is, it doesn't do much to protect him from the virus. The reason for that is that it covers such a small area of contact. The surrounding area remains exposed.

If your husband is truly concerned about contracting the virus, a condom might make him feel more comfortable, but it's not a reliable means of protection. If the virus isn't a big deal for him, it may not be worth the sacrifice. Refraining from sexual activity during ob's, and suppressants (if you feel you want to take them), are your best options.

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