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I am newly diagnosed as of today and I am not sure what to do. My doctor stated that I had the virus in me for at least 3 months and up to the max of 10 years. I've had sex with the same person for the last 6 months and only used condoms. How can I not have known that I had this. I have never had an outbreak to my knowledge. I have been reading and reading material all day and I still can not make sense of this. I've read about outbreaks and wonder why I never experienced any of this. I am confused and not sure what to do. I am currently single and wonder if my hope of finding a partner is over. I do not want to confide in my family as I don't want to be talked about in a bad way. I have no one to turn to...all I can do is cry and cry. I have been an advocate of safe sex and monogamous relationships and for this to happen to me..all I can think of is why god? I am sorry this is how I feel. Do I tell my exes? How do I go on from here?

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Hey Vegas,

Like you I am newly diagnosed (but new for awhile before getting tested). First thing I want to say is not to think anything less of yourself. Everything happens for a reason and its a matter of telling yourself "I have it, now what can I do to prevent future outbreaks, better my health, etc..." Adapting to the situation and overcoming the emotional termoil that comes with it. The sooner you can tackle these things, the better life gets (for me it worked).

I to havent told anyone in my family either, and thats a matter of how you feel. To me its a personal matter, and I'm not going to say anything till I meet the women I will marry. That brings me to my next point, I have total faith in God that He will bring a women in my life that will understand my faults and marry me for who I am and not what I've done. My favorite quote always comes to mind, "Its not the past that defines you, its the choices you make afterwards that do." Stay strong!



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