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baileysmom

I have had cold sores since I was a kid--no idea where I got them but a lot of kids I new growing up had them. I know cold sores are caused by the herpes virus, and I am very careful from the time I feel an outbreak coming to when it is completely gone not to expose anyone to them. Here's what I don't know: am I supposed to warn a guy at the beginning of a relationship before any kissing that I have herpes? I've never thought I needed to do so and never had an issue in the past. When I got an outbreak, I just didn't kiss or use my mouth in any activities. Now I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months and I just got a coldsore today (kissed him about 3 days ago...) and I mentioned the cold sore and now he's pissed and won't talk to me because I didn't warn him I have herpes...how do people with coldsores handle this?

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WarriorKing

Most of the population really does have HSV1 that causes cold sores. You just have a light chat early on in the relationship, "btw I do get cold sores sometimes" like most people get.

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crazytalk96

Well I got genital herpes from my boyfriend who gets cold sores. It is a big deal. I feel alone with it because now I have an "STD" and he only has a little virus he got as a kid.

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ravencry
Well I got genital herpes from my boyfriend who gets cold sores. It is a big deal. I feel alone with it because now I have an "STD" and he only has a little virus he got as a kid.

Do you have hsv1 in your genitals? Yes its a big deal in a manner of speaking it retrospect, for me anyway, its a cold sore no matter where it is. The stigma attached to genital herpies has been around along time and its sad that people don't get that its the same friggin virus with different hiding spots. Please don't be so hard on yourself or ur boyfriend...thbe thing to do now is to educate yourself...the more you know the better you,ll feel about it. Have a great day!

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Joefireman

don't feel alone. I now have a cold sore that I think I got from my girlfriend. I suspect she has genital herpes but there are no clear out breaks. She doesn't think its her or that her ex-husband who gave her chlamydia too is to blame. You're not alone. It may not be the same but you're not alone in how you feel. I'm sure the genital out breaks are worse. But everyone looks at my sore when it comes out. None of this is any good.

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Kentuckianna

I get a cold sore every once in a blue moon. I try to hide mine when it pops up, mostly by makeup but it dont hide it too well. I don't even kiss when I get one, I offer the cheek most of the time till it gone. Last one I gotten was from stress due to things from last year.

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Pandaabear

My boyfriend has 1 and I'm deathly afraid I have 2. He may have one but I'm scared to tell him I may have genital herpes.

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