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Saphy

Diagnosed 24 years ago, now single, have I been foolish?

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Saphy

Can anyone advise? I feel terrible as a friend has just informed me she has herpes and I think it may be my fault. Here's my story..24 years ago I was diagnosed with herpes soon after starting a relationship. This was my first sexual relationship in two years so presumed it was from my new partner. We eventually married and stayed together for 18. I never had another breakout and his must have been dormant as he said he was not aware of ever having it. 6 years ago we split up and I started another relationship which although we still have sex now and then ended 2 years ago. He has never suffered from herpes and to be honest, i never thought about it as a problem because it seemed it was so far in the past. 18 months ago I had unprotected sex with a couple, old friends. She has just informed me that she was recently diagnosed and I am worried it's my fault. She has been monogomose with her partner but he has probably not been. Could I have infected him? Now I am single, how should I proceed with future relationships?

Any help/advise would be gratefully received, I feel sick and stupid.

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WarriorKing

This virus is so incredibly widespread and so many people do not have symptoms that you may never know. With future relationships you just need to inform and let them choose to take the risk with you. Or they may already have it and thus there is no risk at all. Do learn as much as you can.

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beautifulwoman

I was just recently diagnosed with herpes about six months ago. I am devistaded because I get breakout once a month!! Is that posible? Therefore I am not ready to go out there and date yet! I'm afraid to tell anyone beside dealing with the breakout is the worst.

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it possible that she may have gotten it from you sense you already have herpies when you had sex with her it is also possible that she may have gotton it from her hubby who may of not have been faithful. there no way to be sure so all you can really do now is to change how your intimate with people by informing before performing and take procautions when you do by using a rubber.

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