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Diagnosed 24 years ago, have I been foolish?

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Diagnosed 24 years ago, now single, have I been foolish?

Can anyone advise? I feel terrible as a friend has just informed me she has herpes and I think it may be my fault. Here's my story..24 years ago I was diagnosed with herpes soon after starting a relationship. This was my first sexual relationship in two years so presumed it was from my new partner. We eventually married and stayed together for 18. I never had another breakout and his must have been dormant as he said he was not aware of ever having it. 6 years ago we split up and I started another relationship which although we still have sex now and then ended 2 years ago. He has never suffered from herpes and to be honest, i never thought about it as a problem because it seemed it was so far in the past. 18 months ago I had unprotected sex with a couple, old friends. She has just informed me that she was recently diagnosed and I am worried it's my fault. She has been monogomose with her partner but he has probably not been. Could I have infected him? Now I am single, how should I proceed with future relationships?

Any help/advise would be gratefully received, I feel sick and stupid.

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saphy, you have not been foolish since doctors now a day dunno much about H I can't imagine 24 years ago when you were diagnosed. The truth is having unprotected sex was not the smartest since we are carrying this sucker for the rest of our life and yes there is the chance you passed it to someone else since there's something called viral shedding, it is when the virus particles surface the skin but don't present any symptom.

your friend's partner should get tested, but my advise, what's done is done and there's no turning back time. now you know there's a chance of passing it along, learn. This is not the end of the world but there should be precautions to take care of the people we have sex with.

Good Luck and hope to see you cheer up soon.

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i just found out today i contracted the virus.... and i recently had sex with a guy who ive been talking to for some months. i dont know how to tell him but i am afraid that he will get the virus also.... now, i just gota keep praying and claiming that there will be a cure for the disease....... i pray that everything works out with you and your friends.

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