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So my best friend, who I grew up with, and who is like a sister to me, has GH. She got it from an ex-boyfriend, and didn't know it until after the break-up. It was ugly.

It's been a struggle for her living with GH, and I've been there for her through it all. I'm the only one that knows of it. I do my best to give her advice, but it's really hard, and all I can do is just listen. She's met a few guys, but once she's told them about GH, they've all left her. It breaks my heart because she's really an amazing person. But sometimes, I just don't know what to say. :(

I really love her dearly, so I just would like to know what's some advice or tips you folks can share with me. Thanks!

-Nienna

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Nienna...first I've got to say that it is a true blessing for her to have you in her life. It takes a true friend to be there through something like this. I was diagnosed with ghsv2 a little over a yr ago and the first person I called from the dr's office when I was told I was to be tested it for it was my best friend. The best thing you can do for her is to continue to do what you're already doing and that's to be there for her and listen. Be supportive but never judgmental. Never take anything personal...she may go through moods that you won't understand but it's never an attack on you. This virus is a complicated thing b/c between the outbreaks, the emotion, and the reactions you get from others when you have to disclose it are things that keep you on a rollercoaster. So she will go through things that you may not understand but b/c you're there it will help her to get through. I think it would help you both to join the website here to get more information and support. You've taken a major step by doing that already...this site will help her figure some things out and get the added info she needs b/c this virus is so different from person to person. Congrats on being a true friend:adore:

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