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Paiggeypoo

Hey, my names Paige. I'm 16 and I have contracted genital herpes through oral sex from an ex boyfriend. Im now dating someone new who I really like. Im considering having sex with him, but im not sure. Im currently taking Valtrex to help with the outbreaks and I know that if I have sex with him it will be protected. Im not sure if I have to tell him or not. Please help((((:

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MsLucy

It's the decent thing to do. A condom isn't all that much protection. The reason for that is that a condom covers such a small area, leaving a lot of skin exposed during sex. Also, if he gives you oral sex, he can possibly contract it orally.

Better to be straightforward about it before, than have to offer apologies after. Most people who contract herpes from someone who knew, but didn't tell, get pretty irate about it, and rightfully so. Don't put yourself in that position. If you're not experiencing any symptoms, chances are good that he won't get it... but there's always that chance that he might.

A read through the information topics on the side bar will provide you with most of the information you need about herpes. I highly suggest it.

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d00m kitty

I'm with MsLucy, please tell the guy beforehand. I got Herpes from someone who didn't tell me..............

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Misery

Hello Paige, disclosing your condition is the right thing to do. I dont want to discorage you but have you given this any thought as to what it might do to your reputation? (assuming you're in school) If i had h at 16 sex would be the farthest thing from my mind. Heck ive known about my having h for 3 and a half years now and have not had sex since knowing. Good luck and i wish you well.

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MsLucy

I swore I wasn't going to do this, but I can't stop myself.

Paige, Misery brings up a valid point. I have an 18 year old son, and I hear what he says about the girls he knows. Guys will always be willing to 'hook up' with someone they know is an easy 'make', but when it comes to serious relationships, those girls don't even make the first cut. You may think that what you're considering will make you popular now, but the reputation you're building will stay with you long after. Men are like elephants... they never forget. And once you've got 'that' reputation, it's yours to keep, whether you want it or not, or whether it's even deserved or not.

You're only 16. What's the rush? Unless you respect yourself, no one else will, either.

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Forgiving1

Paige, I think you need to focus on something else other than sex. You are a young girl its never too late to turn your life around. Stop giving your body to boys and give your life to God. These guys do not care about you. They are just out to get what they want and keep it moving. You are sooo young- be glad you didn't catch anything worse than herpes and turn your life around please. Once you tell this person your business is going to be out there in the streets. don't have sex with him. Message me if you want to talk. I just don't want to see a young girl ruin herself.

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talesofagirl
Hey, my names Paige. I'm 16 and I have contracted genital herpes through oral sex from an ex boyfriend. Im now dating someone new who I really like. Im considering having sex with him, but im not sure. Im currently taking Valtrex to help with the outbreaks and I know that if I have sex with him it will be protected. Im not sure if I have to tell him or not. Please help((((:

The other responders had valid points, but something to consider...if you caught it from oral sex, it is probably type 1. (Have you had a test to find out the type?) You can still catch type 2 from someone else. (Or if you have type 2, you can still catch type 1.)

So not only should you disclose for their sake, you should make sure they get tested, so you know what they have.

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