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Hello, all. I'm really happy that I stumbled upon this site. I was diagnosed with genital herpes today. It's really nice to know that I'm not completely alone in this, although it really does feel like it! I'm currently three days into my first OB and I feel absolutely awful. This is so painful, and I just feel like crap in general. Any helpful advice as to how to expect to live a somewhat normal life from this point forward would be much appreciated.

Thanks, and I'll see y'all around on here!

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Magnolia

A normal life is completely possible! Try to stay positive. Your first OB is always the worst and they will get less painful and less frequent over time. Learn to listen to your body and know your triggers (sex, period, stress, etc.) so that you know if you're about to have an OB. Consider meds or other treatments. If you have an OB you should wait until the sores are completely healed before having sex. I personally think honesty is the best policy and you should always tell someone your situation before having sex (this is inadvertently good because you will be more selective in who you have sex with!). Some guys will be too scared to have a relationship with you but it IS possible to find a partner. I have an amazing boyfriend who I started a relationship with AFTER being diagnosed. I was scared to tell him because I had had 1 bad experience (had also had 1 good!) but he was understanding and it made me respect him so much more. Just remind yourself all the positive things about yourself and your life. I hope that helps...I think you'll get the support you need from this forum :)

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