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Did anyone else get this from a cheating partner? And am I the only idiot who is still with said partner? :madd:

I feel stuck. I feel unlovable. I feel like a burden. I feel... very angry.

I often want to shoot myself- guess my glock being stolen along with my truck for christmas was a good thing after all.

sigh.

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JBnATL

Don't feel stuck, you can date whomever you want. And if someone does not accept you because of this, then they are not the right person for you.

I have had it many years and it has not stopped me from doing anything or anyone I wanted.

There are support groups in both Austin and San Antonio. Click on the link on the right "Herpes Support Groups". The one here in Atlanta really helped me out when I was first diagnosed.

Come to the Chat Room, there you will find many fellow Herpsters who can offer you their support.

Good luck!

JB

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gotitsowhat

I remember 10 wasted years of my life in which I did not socialize, did not even talk to people much because I could not imagine that anyone would want me in any way. Then, I decided to start living again instead of just existing. It seemed impossible to me: I am overweight, and over the age where people date (65) and I'm eccentric. Who would be interested? I talked to a therapist about it and he wished me luck but he pointed out that men are basically hard wired to like young, slim women. This, I believe, is true. And I live in California, where even people of normal weight consider themselves fat.

Nevertheless, I ventured out. And I am glad I did. For quite a while, I had resigned myself to not even getting as far as "the talk," because of my age and weight.

A few months ago, I met a man I had known vaguely as a guy in the neighborhood. He used to be a radio celebrity many, many years ago. The way I met him was like this....I was driving, turned a familiar corner and found myself in a most unfamiliar police cordon, getting a ticket for a sign that had not been there the day before, had not been there in the years (most of my life) I have lived in this neighborhood, and was covered with a palm frond thus making it impossible for anyone to read. It was an obvious trap. But, in cases like that, you have to go to a great deal of trouble to prove entrapment. I don't have a lot of time nor any extra money for lawyers. I was stuck. Until....this crazy looking (VERY eccentric!) gray haired man appeared out of nowhere, wearing strange bright clothes and he began arguing vigorously with the cop who was about to write me the ticket. I was sure he would get arrested. But, to my surprise, the cop took the man over to the cop's superior and the three of them began talking. That was when I recognized the eccentric man as the former radio celebrity. In about a minute, the cop came back and with the strangely dressed gray haired man watching, told me I could go, no ticket. I was amazed! It seemed that the eccentric guy's connections with the city government counted here, along with his ability to spread publicity via the airwaves through his radio friends.

Later, we met and shared a hot dog. We hit it off. I was amazed. Some guys don't find some fat a turnoff, it seems. Or age. He invited me to go back to his apartment. I said, "I think at this point you need to know that I carry the herpes simplex virus, type 2." His answer: "So? I don't care! I'll wear a condom." When I dutifully pointed out that condoms don't protect 100%, his answer was, "What, you think I don't know that?! You think I was born yesterday?! I've been around. Don't even worry about it." By that time I was laughing because he is about 10 years older than I am in his mid 70s and was definitely NOT "born yesterday."

Never live your life out of fear. There are too many good things and good people out there to let a tiny little common virus make your decisions for you. Staying with someone you don't love out of fear of facing the world with herpes yields a 0% chance of experiencing love. On the other hand, if you decide to go out there and face the world, I cannot say for sure what your chances would be of finding the right person. But it is almost certainly greater odds than zero, right? If you are miserable with the person you are with and are staying with that person mainly out of fear, living in what someone once called, "comfortable misery," you really don't have much to lose. Might as well up the odds of happiness.Take it from a fat eccentric old lady--it's definitely worth a try.

Not sure how serious this recently begun affair is, but I am still seeing him. And it's been fun.

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Did anyone else get this from a cheating partner? And am I the only idiot who is still with said partner? :madd:

I feel stuck. I feel unlovable. I feel like a burden. I feel... very angry.

I often want to shoot myself- guess my glock being stolen along with my truck for christmas was a good thing after all.

sigh.

:wavey: Hi i got it from a cheating partner! and i was so hurt beyond words but we ended up breaking up because i was too scared that someday he would bring HIV to me if he could bring me herpes! personally ive decided to be celibate mainly because i cannot imagine being rejected by someone after giving the talk neither do i want to put my business out there. Killing yourself is not the answer i figured that out cos i considered it myself, just treat yourself to the best life can offer and hold on to hope for a cure. tk care!

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