could l have contracted oral herpes/ not sure what type.

[nervous101]

hi. l did something stupid not to long ago.

l saw an escort. l kissed her for a bout 20 seconds and then gave her unprotected oral sex for about two in a half minutes, then said this isn't a good idea.

l am worried l could of contracted oral herpes from performing oral sex on her. she had no sores present at the time that l saw. l am worried because obviously many men give her unprotected oral sex and she possibly might of had genital HSV1 or maybe HSV2, who knows. after that she gave me oral sex with a condom, that's was it, l never had sex with her. l have never had a cold sore before, l am 22 years old. l don't know my status because we can't get blood tests in Canada.

her is my questions

what are the odds of getting oral herpes from giving oral sex on a woman if she has genital HSV1 or HSV2 but no signs at the time.

and can you get genital HSV1 on the mouth or is it only considered HSV2 on the mouth because it came from someones genitals. l need some answers thanks.

[WarriorKing]

HSV1 and HSV2 are two strains of the same virus. HSV1 is usually passed orally, and HSV2 is usually passed genitally. They prefer those areas but can be acquired vice versa. Chances are good you didn't get anything. Right now it is your mind that is racing. Sex with anyone carries risks of getting various bacteria and viruses. Sure, escorts open themselves up to more risk, and then you invite that risk by having relations with them.

[nervous101]

so lets say if l did get anything from giving her oral, would it be oral hsv2 then. even lets say if she has genital hsv1. since it would come from her genitals in me it would be HSV2. l heard it is not common to get herpes from giving oral sex, people mostly get it getting oral sex. is that true.

[eternalpositive]

you can get blood test in canada. gamma dynacare or something. google it. lab is based out of montreal. and btw. it's VERY unlikely. It's more likely you get oral hsv1 from her mouth than genitals. remember site of preference. genital to mouth is hard. In fact i think i have never heard of Genital hsv2 EVER being transmitted to someone's mouth. Genital hsv1 is possible to mouth though.

[RealisticGal]

so lets if l did get anything from giving her oral, would it be oral hsv2 then. even lets say if she has genital hsv1. since it would come from her genitals in me it would be HSV2. l heard it is not common to get herpes from giving oral sex, people mostly get it getting oral sex. is that true.

No, that isn't quite right, hon. You can have either HSV1 or HSV2 in either place, and it doesn't matter how you got it. What determines which strain a person gets is which strain the person they get it from has. In either place. To either place.

Clear as mud?

Anyway, please try to relax. As MrH said, the fact that this woman was an escort doesn't really increase the chances she has HSV by all that much. After all, about 80% of the North American adult population has HSV1 and about 20-25% have HSV2. Clearly, those folks aren't all escorts.

Plus, the minimal contact you had really makes it highly unlikely anything was transmitted.

Oh, to add to what eternalpositive said, blood tests are available in Canada. It might ease your mind to get one now (to check your baseline status, before you form antibodies from that exposure if anything did happen), then get another in a few months.

One thing to note: Oral HSV2 is considered the least likely of 4 scenarios. It is possible, but considered quite rare. So if that gal had Genital HSV2, your chances of picking it up from a couple minutes giving her oral sex are the least likely thing of all. I've given my guy quite a bit of unprotected oral sex so far (since we became intimate), but have not contracted it.

Here's some info to help clear things up. Be sure to read the last section, called How Easily Spread?:

"Good" Virus/"Bad" Virus

Take care.

[nervous101]

thanks. l fell a bit better. this actually happened a few months ago and still nothing, but l am still worrying. mostly because l am ashamed of what l did and of course don't want to get a life long virus from a prostitute. and just one more thing to clear up.

lets say a woman gives a man oral and he gets herpes, he then has genital HSV1

and lets say the same guy gets oral from a girl and she gets it on her mouth does she then have oral HSV1 or oral HSV2

now say that same guy has unprotected sex with another girl and she gets genital herpes, does she then also have genital HSV1 or would it be HSV2

[eternalpositive]

ok HSV 1 CANNOT BECOME HSV 2...that's like saying if i put an apple with oranges will the apple turn into oranges. it will ALWAYS be HSV 1. Ok so if a man has genital hsv 1, it's unlikely a girl will give him a oral sex and get it in her mouth..but it's possible..again it is MORE likely for someone with oral hsv 1 to be spreading around HSV1 (orally and genitally) than it is for a person with genital hsv 1..a person with genital hsv 1 might get 1-3 breakouts A LIFETIME. a person with oral hsv 1 will prob get a few cold sores a year..every year for life.

ok so if on a rare occasion a girl did get hsv 1 in her mouth from giving oral sex to a man with it, then she now has ORAL HSV1..the same as the majority of the entire population.

as to the last question, again, if in some rare feat he nows gives genital hsv 1 to another girl genitally she now has GENITAL HSV 1

HSV 1 STAYS HSV 1..HSV 2 STAYS HSV 2

FYI: starting from rare to common in order...

1) HSV 2 ORALLY IS RARE RARE RARE RARE...RARE.

2) HSV 1 GENITALLY is the next rare one but gaining in numbers. but lowest after oral HSV 2

3 genital HSV 2 is the next one probably in terms of numbers and how easy it is to catch , with this one you might get several outbreaks a year

4) and the most prevalent herpes is probably Oral HSV1 (cold sores)

[eternalpositive]

oops i was a bit off...after checking someone's resource this is the following break down of recurrence

According to the Lafferty study, genital HSV-2 infections were the most frequently recurring herpes infections, followed by oral HSV-1, genital HSV-1, and last of all, oral HSV-2.

I have never heard of anyone having oral HSV2 btw

[RealisticGal]

thanks. l fell a bit better. this actually happened a few months ago and still nothing, but l am still worrying. mostly because l am ashamed of what l did and of course don't want to get a life long virus from a prostitute. and just one more thing to clear up.

lets say a woman gives a man oral and he gets herpes, he then has genital HSV1

and lets say the same guy gets oral from a girl and she gets it on her mouth does she then have oral HSV1 or oral HSV2

now say that same guy has unprotected sex with another girl and she gets genital herpes, does she then also have genital HSV1 or would it be HSV2

In all cases, no matter which place a previously uninfected person (person #1) acquires herpes, nor which place the infected person (person #2) is transferring it from, whichever strain person #2 has is the strain that person #1 gets.

So if the woman in question 1 had oral HSV1, the guy could get genital HSV1. But if she had the rare case of oral HSV2, he might get genital HSV2.

Girl in scenario 2 can only get whichever strain he had.

Girl in scenario 3 can ALSO only get whichever strain he had.

[RealisticGal]

I have never heard of anyone having oral HSV2 btw

There are a number of members here who do have oral HSV2. It is least likely, but it is possible. It has a better chance of happening in someone who had neither strain in either location prior to being exposed to it orally (because of protection from antibodies in those who have previous infections with either strain). All of that is in the link I posted previously (Good Virus/Bad Virus).