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Let's settle this debate once and for all!!!!! infected Men vs. infected Women

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Women with herpes who disclose to there male partners are more than likely to get a positive result where the man will accept the chances of transmission.


Men with herpes who disclose to there male partners are more than likely to get a positive result where the man will accept the chances of transmission.


It doesn't matter because it's all about disclosing before you and your partner have sex. That alone will earn you trust from your partner and therefore he/she will be more likely to accept the chances of transmission. If he/she doesn't then respect there decision and keep it moving.

I think that women have it easier than men because men are more that likely to take the chances of transmission than a woman would if she found out her sex partner had herpes. All you infected women would have to tell a man is that it's a 1% chance of infection if he wears a condom because you aren't experiencing an outbreak at this period of time and he will still be down to have sex with you. That shit don't fly with woman!!!! Not only that but a mans transmission rate is higher than a woman's. That hole perception that women love regardless as long as a man is up front and always tells the truth is bs. When it comes to having sex for the first time with a man, a woman wants it to go right and disclosing to her you have an lifelong STD will most likely get a man the shaft.

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Poor Doc

Poor, poor Doc...

It's like you think, if you keep pounding away and asking this same question over and over, you are somehow going to get a different answer here.

Men are not all alike.

Women are not all alike.

Individuals react differently, and some of it has to do with the presentation.

But some of it is just what it is. Some folks will say no.

Bottom line is that you cannot possibly say that women "have it easier" when it comes to herpes, nor can you generalize about any of the aspects.

And you can't use any of your theories about how "men get the shaft" to justify not disclosing. It simply doesn't wash.

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Hello. I am new here but I can say one thing. my mother married a man with herpes. they practiced safe sex and he took his medicine. my mother never contracted it. they are no longer married (because of other reasons) but I thought I was just let you know that it is true that a woman will marry a man and have sex even if he has herpes. She really loved him, even for the fact of the matter :-) hope that helps

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Sorry Doc - that's bulls@#t.

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Doc, I think we all need to give you a group hug because you present so many different theories that, in the grand scheme of things, just arent true! I have to agree with RealisticGal: you have to base decisions on an individuals own merit! You never know when you will find someone to accept you, herpes and all, but if you take care of yourself and present a positive frame of mind, most women will...Trust me, Ive had more positive reactions than negative, and yeah, Im a cutie, but I choose to believe it was more than that ;-)

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