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I was diagnosed with Genital HSV 1 three years ago next month. My ex at the time likely gave it to me orally because that was pretty much all we were having at the time. He denied having it or knowing remained skeptical throughout. We continued to have unprotected sex for a year. He never caught it on his genitals or ever showed any sign of it. I have had two partners since him, with condoms, they have never contracted. I am not on suppressive therapy.

I have not had an outbreak in about three years. And honestly, i sometimes forget i have it. Here's the thing though, My friend today was saying she had all these cold sores in her mouth. She said it so nonchalantly. NONE Of my friends know about my status....NONE of my friends tell their partners or mention they have oral HSV1...its NOT AN ISSUE, there's never any big talk...so wait..why do I HAVE TO HAVE A BIG TALK WHEN MY CHANCE OF TRANSMITTING IT IS EVEN LOWER THAN A PERSON WITH ORAL HSV 1???

Anyhow, this was part 1) about my outbreaks 2) part rant.

as for how i prevent outbreaks, i think it's just due to the fact that it's hsv1 so sheds virally so rarely. I do maintain healthy lifestyle though taking all my vitamins, C, and zinc, i rarely even get colds, etc.

I do think zinc and garlic and honey (anti viral) are miracle workers though for ALL types of illnesses though.

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eternalpositive- the stigma attached totally sucks. People are completely nonchalant about cold sores you are right! I may PM you- as I just got diagnosed with GHSV1 three weeks ago, so any knowledge would be really helpful.

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Also ghsv1. It sucks...and I'm not even a month in yet.

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if it's a consolation. like i said, it's been 3 years...NO RECURRENT OUTBREAK. NOT ON VALTREX. NEVER TRANSMITTED IT. ghsv1

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Because, IMO..... its the right thing to do.

Remember how you felt when you caught it from your partner, not knowing he had it? Remember what you went through? Why then would you want to put someone else through that? The difference also now is that you KNOW you have it so you can't deny it.....

I know it's tough - trust me, I've been there and got the scars - but as you say, it's not really a big deal to you and just as your friends can mention it "nonchalantly" so can you to anyone you plan to get intimate with.

Right, I'm hopping down off my high horse now. Sorry to come at you, I don't mean offence.

And good on you for dealing with it so well..... I too swear by zinc and vitamin c - they are the bomb!

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Try a Lysine supplement for cold sores

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