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Where do I start? Hold on to your seats...

8 years ago I met J. 9 months into the relationship I wanted to break it off with him because he just wasn't a nice guy and I didn't want to waste anymore time. The same week I was breaking up with him, I discovered an outbreak. I went to the Doc ASAP and was diagnosed with HSV2. I literally thought my life was over...totally devastated. I had very little partners and had always been so careful. J knew he had it and didn't tell me. To this day a part of me still hates him. Because I felt branded for life and thought that no one would ever want to date me, I married him. I know, I know...terrible and ridiculous. We have been married for 6 years now. We have two gorgeous children, but I know in my heart that I only married him because I thought I was the only one in the world who had HSV2...that I know personally. I have NEVER told anyone. He and I are the only ones that know (besides my Doctor) and I feel like it's such a dirty secret. He won't even tell his Doctor. I have wanted to divorce him for a very long time, but feel stuck because of the HSV2. I know that sounds ridiculous, but I can't imagine trying to date one day and telling someone that I have it. I have never had to do that because I married the person who gave it to me. The thought of that makes me want to suck it up and just suffer in this relationship.

I guess this is a way for me to vent...especially since I've never told anyone and I can't talk about it with him, because he's in denial. I can't get advice from my parents or friends because I really can't tell them.

Can I dig myself any deeper because I let HSV2 control me? Marry him, have two kids, and waste 6 years of my young life?...that's pretty much as deep I can get. I've finally reached the bottom. How do I recover from that?

How many people in the US are estimated to have HSV2?

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Sorry to hear your story. I'm really sorry for the upset you're feeling. I just wanted to say that I've been on this site for less than 24 hours and I've already spoken to so many great people who are living with HSV - everyone is so posiitve and supportive. The site has already made me feel that, when I (hopefully) get through a predictament I've got myself into, that there really is an opportunity to meet someone who is also affected by HSV which effectively makes HSV a meaningless issue in the relationship (as both have it). I think you should spend a bit of time in the chat room and talk to some of the friendly, supportive people there - I'm not saying it will help immediately but it offers some hope that there are loads of great people around who aren't at all worried about having a partner with HSV as it's not an issue to them (since they have it too). I really hope things improve for you and this site helps to lift your spirits.

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Roughly 30 million women and 10 million men have HSV2. Most do not know it.

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Try a Lysine supplement for cold sores

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    • WilsoInAus
      You’re on the right track for sure. Did you get a swab of the lesions? Have you had an IgG blood retest for HSV?
    • amsb88
      I would like to hear from those who have genital hsv 1... I’m thinking that I have type 1 because the guy I believe gave it to me had cold sores.. or is this assumption wrong? What’s the chances of having type 2 from his cold sores? 
    • Tone123
    • Trace67
      LOL...............what a crock of shit! Lets get some of Rich Mancuscos magic minerals and some crystals to go with it.
    • smilingagain
      I am very sorry that you are feeling the way you do at this time.  I went through the full range of feelings and emotions you describe for more than 10X as long as you have (that's right over 30 years) .  I have no idea if what I am going to tell you will be of benefit but I have no doubt what soever that HSV2 has been eliminated from my life.    This happened several months ago.  How?  Through SCALAR ENERGY.  It is still hard for me believe at times that I am now free of it, but it's true. If you want to know more you should go to the website and read it all.  creativestrength.us  I have absolutely no connection to the good people at this site other than I am now totally well from the treatment (not expensive) and am telling my story in the hopes that the same will happen to them. 

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