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Eosino

I was wondering how long you should wait after an outbreak to have sex. I had my first outbreak and it healed really well. My boyfriend and i had sex last night and it was painful! Now i'm all sore and itchy. :(

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Tiny

I normally wait 5 to 6 days, more if I can (on suppressive meds I only get one outbreak every year so it doesn't seem like too much of an inconvenience)

By then the symptoms have cleared up and the area is not red anymore. My worry is more about residual virus on my skin that may infect my partner rather than the discomfit.

The strange thing about having herpes is the paranoia--constantly analysing every pinch and discomfit in the special area and wondering if it is some new game the herpes is playing. I think that is quite common.

If you have only just had your first outbreak it will take you a bit of time to learn how your body reacts, how frequently you get outbreaks, what causes them. You will definitely start to feel more confident and find things easier as it becomes more familiar to you.

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Eosino

Thanks. :) I'm still a bit itchy, the soreness is gone. It's really difficult because my boyfriend wants sex and so do i, but i have to say no because i know i'll regret it afterward if i don't wait longer.

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MsLucy

If I may make another suggestion... lube. Friction is not your friend, and can trigger obs after sex. So, even if you think you don't need it, use lube. It may help prevent those 'day after' symptoms.

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