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mpls5

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mpls5

If any newly diagnosed want to chat about dealing with your diagnosis, approaching the subject, or just in general, please let me know! I'm new here and I'd love to help in any way that I can. I know how hard it was for me!

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misshoneybee

Hello & welcome, you might find the chatroom is a great place to start!

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z3na

I found out a few hours ago that I have herpes and I feel totally lost. My head is full of confusing thoughts. I have been single for nigh on 5 years - and have not had much luck with men, how will I fair now I have this bombshell to drop. What if I want to have children? how could I have been so stupid? I am not even 100% sure who gave it to me - feel totally disgusted with myself.

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mpls5

Hi z3na! I've found that it really hasn't affected my relationships... I generally wait a little bit before sleeping with anybody I date, or getting to the point where I have to explain it... I've found that if you are dating somebody who really cares about you and trusts you, then it isn't a problem as long as you make sure you take measures to prevent the transmission!

You can still have children with herpes! It won't affect childbirth or anything at all (my doctor explained this to me).. if you were to get pregnant, then if there were ANY concern at all that you were having an outbreak when it was time to have your child, they would just perform a c-section. If you're worried about having unprotected sex, I believe I read somewhere that the virus only sheds around 15 days a year (on average).. I could be wrong- research it for yourself! However, if you are taking viral suppressants the chance of spreading it is reduced to well below 10%. I think I read somewhere that if you are taking suppressants as well as using a condom the chance of it spreading is below 1%!

Don't feel disgusted with yourself... herpes is a common std, even though people may not know it is! There are tons of people here who are here to support and guide you through this learning experience in your life, and you can always ask anybody here for help! Stay strong and keep smiling :)

-Kirst

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