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Hi everybody! I just stumbled across this site and was very happy to see that there is such a great community to provide support. I hope that I can become a part of the community on this site to provide advice and support to everybody who needs it.

I was diagnosed with GH about a year and a half ago, in May of 2009 just a few days after my 19th birthday. It was given to me by a guy that I had dated throughout all of high school, and then I had went out-of-state to college and when I came back for summer, he asked to hang out and the rest is history. When I was diagnosed, I was devastated. My first OB was horrendous and I was sick for around two weeks, and then I became sick with pneumonia immediately afterwards. I felt depressed, disgusted with myself, and shocked; I had only ever been with two guys, both of which I had been in relationships with, and I had contracted an STD... something I thought would never happen to me. Researching it online only scared me more, especially when reading about the worse possible scenarios. My best friend and I went to a Planned Parenthood, where I got tested, because I was too scared to tell my mom before I knew what it was.

I have been taking Valtrex since about a month after my first outbreak, and I'm happy to say that I haven't experienced any symptoms since!! However, it has definitely changed my life- not so much drastically, but for example, it's changed the way I approach relationships, my tolerance for certain types of humor (jokes about STDs have become VERY not funny), and I've become very involved with my University's sexual health awareness group. A few months after my diagnosis, I started dating a guy seriously, and "the talk" was extremely hard... when I had to explain it, I nearly broke down. **If anybody needs help or advice on how to approach the topic, I'm more than willing to share my experiences!

Basically, I've tried to look at my diagnosis as a learning experience. I think that I've matured as a person and I've become involved in my community to try to better educate people to be safe so that they can avoid the hurt and confusion that I had to go through. If anybody ever wants to chat, just let me know! :)

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Welcome to the 'club'!

I have had it many years and it has not stopped me from doing anything or anyone I wanted. I have given the 'talk' many times and have never been rejected. I simply start out by asking them if they have ever had a cold sore. No one thinks cold sores are bad things. Then I tell them I get cold sores but not on my face. I do ask if they know what causes cold sores and informs them if they do not.

Come to the Chat Room, there you will find many nice fellow Herpsters who can offer you their advice.

Good luck!


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hey mpls5

Read your thread there and couldn't believe when i seen you were only 20, you have a fab attitude this all. Think you're great for becoming involved in your sexual health uni group- fair dues. May well take you up on your offer of advice on 'the talk' should the time arise. only been diagnoised for a month and the prospect of having the talk just fills me with dread. i hear ya on the unfunny std jokes, had one of my friends recently comment on a promiscious person known to us as a whore with prob every std available flying around. I'm 25yrs have only had three sexual partners and all of them long relationships( except the last which came to an abrupt halt once my diagnosis came through- hee) so i didn't particularly appreciate her remarks but am finding that as with all these sorts of things you can just let them slide off. Delighted to hear you've had no more breakouts- are you on suppressents or the delightful 'h' just hasn't reared it's head again?

All the best,


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Hi Cailin! I didn't deal well with it for a while, but once I had the support of my mom as well as the few friends I've told and the guy I started dating after my diagnosis, it became a lot easier, because I found that nobody thought I was a whore or promiscuous or anything... they understood and were there to support me when I needed them. I've gotten a lot better about the jokes, at first I couldn't stand hearing them and would get upset and defensive (even though nobody knew why I was so defensive)... but now I realize that people don't know better and I know that I'm guilty of throwing a few of those jokes around myself. I'd love to chat if you need any advice about the talk, I've had it with three or four of my close friends as well as two guys that I've seriously dated and it's gone well each time. I think the key is really just helping them understand and being able to answer their questions... even if you can't answer them, looking up the answer together so then you both know!

I'm THRILLED I haven't had more breakouts... I was so scared of them when I got my diagnosis, I felt like I'd have them every month and was really upset! I take Valtrex as a daily suppressant and it's worked great for me. Even if I forget to take it for a few days, I haven't had any problems!!

Great to meet you, and I'm sure I'll see you around! :)


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