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Okay, this may sound odd - but is anyone in a relationship with a person who is also positive? What are the "sex rules" if you are both positive? Do you have to be as careful? Most of the things I have read seem to be about a neg/pos relationship and taking precautions to make sure the other partner doesn't contract the virus... but if you both already have it......... is viral shedding, outbreaks, etc as big of a concern? Can one person having an OB trigger the other partner into having an OB? Etc, Etc... Any info would be great! Thanks!!!

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It depends on the strains and the locations, I suppose.

My dr told me that if both parties have antibodies for say HSV 1 then you should be pretty much be immune from getting it again elsewhere. That being said I wouldn't kiss my partner when he had an outbreak on his lips as mine is genital--and although the risk would probably be tiny I still wouldn't do it. And to be honest I can't say I have ever felt like having sex when having an outbreak...ouch!

If you have different strains one has HSV 1 and the other HSV 2 the similarities of the virus offers about 50% protection. Add suppressive meds which also decrease transmission by 50% and you are getting into very small areas of risk.

I can't understand why one persons OB would trigger another persons, it lives in your nerves...but who knows. I must admit I find the latex of condoms to be an irritant that increases OBs which sucks...trying to do the right thing knowing it is going to make you situation worst...and the latest Dr I saw said in my case condoms would do nothing because all my break out sites are not covered by a condom :-(

I think it all comes down to the couple though, some are prepared even in a neg/pos to not use protection.

Get typed so you know what the combination is...probably avoid sex during outbreaks and negotiate the rues as a couple.

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