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I have a question and would like some opinions. I was recently diagnosed with herpes given from my ex. I was told that his ex has been diagnosed as well, and there is a possiblity he knew he had when we engaged in sex. They are back together and neither one will tell me when she tested positive. But, I believe he knew he could passed to me.. I know I decided to have sex with him but he was dishonest the entire time. He cried with me when I got the news.

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Mmmm, tough one....

For me, personally I'd let it go. I know it's hard but going through months of legal wrangling and slanging and having my sexual history and past dredged up would be far worse. But that's just me...... when diagnosed I decided to suck it up and move forward. But then I wasn't betrayed by a spouse so I can imagine that would bring it's own set of questions.

There is a whole subsection devoted to this very same question - you may care to have a read through there to get some further advice. Here is the link --> http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/messageforum/forumdisplay.php?54-Herpes-Justice-and-the-Law

Hope that helps?

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when did you test for herpes before that? had you had a blood test before? because how would you prove it? it can stay dormant for YEARS.

You would have to testify about your sexual history. EVERYONE your parents, family, friends, PUBLIC RECORD, would also be able to read the case if it were to ever go to trial. why would you want people to be able to read that??

i think everyone needs to take responsibility, did you demand a blood test prior to having sex with him? we all have to take responsibility, in the end, you have cold sores on your privates which can be prevented if it's bad with medication. you won't die. your life is not even threatened. yeah sucks, but put it into PERSPECTIVE. it's chicken pox on your privates.

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