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I have to start off by saying I LOVE this website support group!! I've been doing A LOT of research these past few weeks and this is by far the best I’ve seen.

As for me I'm a mother of two who just recently went through a breakup with my boyfriend of over 4 years. It was a rough breakup and I made a stupid mistake of having a "one night stand" with someone I really didn’t know all that well. I found out I had GH 2 days before Christmas so needless to say I've spent the past few weeks crying my eyes out and making myself invisible to everyone around me. I was embarrassed and ashamed of what I had done not to mention the fear of never being loved again. Then I got freaked that my kids my get it and sterilized everything I touched.....(lets just say I have a very clean house right now).

Since finding out I told my sister and two of my friends who have been extremely supportive. My sister now calls me every night to see how things are going (we used to talk maybe twice a month so if nothing else its brought us closer). One of my friends also told me she knows a few other people that have it and they live normal HAPPY lives now which put some hope back in me.

I realized that I need to just move forward and deal with it. Although I'm far from ready to do the whole dating thing again I am a bit nervous about telling them what I have but I guess I will deal with that when the time comes.

Reading the comments has been very inspirational especially one I read tonight. I'm not quite sure why cause when I read the first line I was surprised by what they had said. As I read I couldn’t agree more with them. Although it sounded harsh....it was the truth. I don’t know if I'm allowed to repost what someone else wrote but I'm going to anyways.....

I think getting herpes is the best thing that can happen to someone. Let me tell you why. Now you aren't going around acting on every sexual desire and getting involved with people you probably shouldn't get involved with. People who don't want to be with you because of it, don't truly like/love you. We are now forced to do things the old fashion way and develope something meaningfull before disclosing. I think its time everyone just relaxes about herpes and realizes that things in life do happen for a reason.

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Many people have told me that getting herpes changed their lives for the better. I completely agree with your post, thanks for sharing.

Come to the Chat Room, there you will find many nice Herpsters who can offer you their support.

Good luck!


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Hi Moving4word,

I just wanted to let you know that I have found a lot of comfort with this forum, too. I was diagnosed with herpes a little over a month ago, and was (and still am) totally devastated. The comments I have read, along with the success stories, have made me realize that I'm not alone and that things will get better for me. They will get better for you, too.

Please don't blame yourself for anything, including the one-night stand. You were grieving the end of a relationship, and you did something that you thought was going to make you feel better. You didn't do anything wrong. Herpes is a nasty little virus that is so easy to catch (so I've learned), and some people go for years before finding out that they have it-not fair.

Hopefully by the time you read this message, you will be feeling much better. Take care.

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