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Mrs Purple

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Mrs Purple

I was told last wk that i have herpes. My dr. said it's no big deal bc it's so common and left it at that. It's still hard to believe. I have been married for 5 yrs to a wonderful man and we have both been faithful to each other. We have to awesome little girls together. My husband has had cold sores or ulcers in his mouth in the past, so the dr. said i got it from oral sex. I didn't even know that was possible. I don't blame him at all and if i would have known, it wouldn't of changed anything. He has been great since i found out and it has brought us closer. The hardest part for me is thinking of the future. I'v had 2 outbreaks in the past 2 months. There not horrible, but I could do without. I'm just worried this is how it's going to be for the rest of my life. If anyone has any positive words they would like to share i would really appreciate it. And if anyone has info on how they have prevented furthur outbreaks please share. I know stress is one of the biggest. I'm trying to stay positive. I know I haven't changes and try to remember that it's just another thing to make me stonger and it could be worse.

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elmerette

Mrs Purple,

I didn't know it was possible to get genital herpes from oral sex either, so don't feel alone. In March it will be a year since diagnosis, and my ob's have lessened in severity and frequency. It will get better with time, this I promise you! I am so glad that you and your husband avoided "the blame game" and instead are supporting and loving each other. As long as you guys stick together, it will be ok.

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package deal

welcome to the board. Yes it does sosusnd like your hubby had herpies 1 before you two got together, and your right not to blame him. You dont relise how many people have herpies one and dont think anything about it other then they have a fever blister and dont know it herpies let alone that it contagious. At least it not herpies 2. Your love life wont change. He cannot reinfect you as you already have it. However be careful about him giving you oral sex you can get herpies one in your privates. if you go to newly diagnosed and look up topic neewly diagnosed must read you find a link to not only to a downloadable handbook but video on it too that very good be careful about kissing your kids as you could pass it onto them. give hugs instead

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Lost321

Mrs. Purple,

Hang in there! Try not to let it get you down for too long; there is still so much in life to enjoy. I also heard from my doctor and from people in the forum that "H" is very common; it is just that there are a lot of people who do not know they have it or others just don't know they have it. I think a part of feeling so bad (I was recently diagnosed-two weeks ago) is that there is a lot of social stigma attached to the idea of it. I try to remember the more positive things in life to appreciate and feel thankful for; that's what helps me to smile when I'm down. I'm glad for you that your husband is being supportive; I've been fortunate as well that my best friend has been so supportive of me through all of this so far. It just shows you that you've got real love and someone who will love you unconditionally plus you've got two little girls--even more love :). Keep your chin up and don't forget to smile :)

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Mrs Purple

Thanks everyone! It's nice to hear and talk to other ppl who are going through the same thing. If anyone wants or needs to talk I'm here to listen and hopefully help anyway i can.

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puppy

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Hello,

I am a 20 (almost 21) year old college student who was diagnosed with genital herpes about three months ago. I, also, contracted the disease from an oral sex encounter. These past three months have been very hard for me and I have felt very ashamed and sorry for myself. After finally coming to terms with everything, I have managed to do great research on herpes and how I can protect both myself and future partners. Although I have been receiving great therapy care from staff at school, I've kept my disease confidential to just my doctors, therapist, and my mother. Even though I have kept my infection secret, I would love to speak to somebody who has gone through it at my age!!!

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