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Beauty

Confused...Need Advice!!!!

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Beauty

I was just diagnosed a month ago. Ive never had an outbreak until now. Ive currently been with my BF for about three months and we've never used condoms bc we both were checked for STD's except for GH. Y dont they include that? He says he did and his came back negative but has feld to show me any paperwork or has yet to b checked since I told him a month ago. And now doesnt want too c me bc of issues he"s goin thru and it has nothing too do with H. He says not to worry about him and he"ll go when he feels like it..WTF..If someone tells me they have GH Im running too the doctor! As far as my ex we were together for a year and been broken up for about 6 months prior to me meeting my boyfriend now. I cant call him aNd ask him to go get checked even tho its killing me inside and he has a rite to kno, but he's and idiot and he just mite tell the world. But I honestly dont think he gave it to me bc im just getting in Ob all of a sudden since ive been with my boyfriend and whom I never used condoms with. i take full responsibility for my negligence. But im also sad,and angry bc of the way he's blowin me off but would still like too kno where it came from..I NEED ADVICE,SUPPORT..HEELLP!

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WarriorKing

You might never "know" who exactly passed it to you. If indeed the first boyfriend would claim he didn't have it, didn't give it to you, and would "tell the world" and give you more emotional trauma, then maybe you shouldn't contact him. This last guy sounds like someone you wouldn't want to be with anyway. I would think you would want to just move on, and you absolutely can move on.

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fullofregret

I know it's hard, but it sounds like all you can really do at this point is take care of yourself... and coming here is a good start.

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Beauty

Thanks for your replies..Yeah Ive come to realize that I probly want kno who gave it to me. And I dont think Im goin to contact my ex. Im just goin too focus on taking care of myself, and moving on, starting a new me. Im sure there's someone out there who will love me for me. I think sometimes is just a mind thing, that makes me think Im worthless, but I kno Im a good person. And this site has been like my best friend lol, I find it too be so relieving sometimes when Im feeeling down!!! Thanks again!

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