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NashvilleTN

I am dating someone I really, really like a lot. We haven't had the talk. On our third date, we went out, had a few drinks, went back to her place. One thing led to another, very quickly. I was too embarrassed, afraid, horny, buzzed...all of that. It happened. Unprotected.

I haven't had an outbreak in a very long time. I'm on acyclovir. For the past several years, I've only had very minor outbreaks, once a year, at most. Still, there's always the chance I've passed it on to her.

I screwed up. I know it. Now I don't know how to tell her that a) I was careless enough to put her at risk and B) she may have been exposed.

Any advice for this dumb-ass?

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SEBASTIAN1965

I was recently diagnosed with type 2. My outbreak is very little, but still is type2 (genital). I would not be one to pass Judgement, but you really screwed up. I would take the chance and tell the person as soon as she gets to know me better. Know me better because Iwant her to love me for what I am. Are you going to tell her? I think she should know. I am a gay man and right now I am in a relationship, two months ago we broke up, and I was alone for like a month. In that month I did not have sex with anybody, just rubbing against someone's body-- and this too I have read can give it to you, but then again I could of had it along time and not know it, so I would not know-ever-My bf and I are back together a month prior to my OB I told my bf about this sores that came out two days after having sex WITH HIM (it was kind of rough) and read this can also brings an out break. It was something that I never had or saw on me, so to the doctor I went, and was diagnosed positive since 01/0/11. I spoke to my bf, and he does not see why we have to break what we have, we just have to work around it..

Please try not to repeat the story. As I seating here I keep reminding myself that I need to tell if I am going to have sex with someone......

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JBnATL

Well definitely apologize and tell her you were thinking more with your little head than your big one.

Start out by asking her if she has ever had a cold sore. No one thinks cold sores are bad things and it basically is the same virus. Then tell her you get cold sores but not on your face. Ask her if she knows what causes them and tell her if she does not.

Make sure you tell her you are on acyclovir, because that reduces the risk of transmission by 50%. Let her know how long you have had it and tell her the longer you have it the less you are contagious. You might want to look into to taking lysine and kelp. Those too help prevent outbreaks and transmission.

Good luck!

JB

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NashvilleTN

Thanks, JB. I appreciate, and will follow, the advice.

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SEBASTIAN1965

You are very welcome, and sorry for being so harsh, but I think this is the same way it was transmitted to me. The good thing is that it seems you are very concern and that is a very good sign of you being a nice person. Take care and keep in touch :)

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