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OK, so it's been like a month now since my first OB started. For 2 of those weeks, the pain is all gone down there. Lymph nodes are no longer swollen and it looks as though the sores are healed. Mt question is this.. I still have a red circle where one sore was. It's on my butt cheek really closed to my vagina. When will this heal up and look normal again? My period is supposed to start next week and I was hoping everything would be healed up and normal.

*sigh* I feel bad, since I haven't been able to have sex with my hubby in a month. I've been nice to him, but I'm beginning to feel left out..LOL I know every person's first outbreak is different, but I though that once the sores healed up, your skin would look normal again in a few days. OK, back to reading now :) Thanks in advance for any answers!

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Like mrhonest said, every one is different with this virus. I have noticed that a cold sore can leave a red mark near my mouth for several weeks after the sore is healed. The redness just slowly fades away.

Vitamin C helps to heal skin and is good for the immune system.

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Sorry for your new diagnosis. At least you have a close person to talk about it with! My sores which got really outta hand during the first ob have healed without any trace.

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Thanks everyone for your replies :) I have been taking vitamin C and lysine and a woman's multi-vitamin..LOL I feel like my mom..LOL I remember laughing at her for taking all sorts of vitamins :)

Yes, I am lucky to have a very understanding and supportive husband during all of this.. he's great! I just wish things would go back to normal. Amazingly enough, I haven't been dwelling on this too often, just every once in awhile I'm like "Oh yeah, I have herpes now" It just feels very weird considering the fact that in the 6 years we've been together, we have never gone longer than a week without being intimate, (Except the time I had our son) now it's been a month and like I said my period starts next week, so most likely it will be closer to 6 weeks before anything happens. And even then, I'm still nervous about actually doing anything. It's like having a baby all over again, where I feared the pain of intercourse before, now I fear giving him herpes down there or even giving it to him on his hands. I'm afraid that this is going to kill my mojo for awhile..LOL

How do you keep sex from feeling clinical? I swear I'm gonna be like "wash your hands and wear a condom" and it's going to take all of the spontaneity away :( I guess this new situation is bothering me a bit...LOL But only about the sex part

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Well you should both get the herpes specific blood test. If he also carries the virus then there is no way that you could pass it to him anyway. If he doesn't yet, then you can take medications to suppress and/or some of these home remedies. Or not. You are married by the way :) and if he does get it, his symptoms will likely be less than what women have to go through.

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We will both be getting tested soon. I wanted to wait a bit since this is new to me and I wanted to make sure there were antibodies :) I have a feeling it's HSV1, he gets cold sores and I have never seen any sores on him down below. I just got lucky and he was getting a cold sore and didn't know it.

So if you have it one place all ready it's harder to get it other places? So that means it would be harder for me to get oral cold sores and him to get genital. I know that it can still happen, and trust me I'm going to be careful with him. It's good to know that on men it's not always as bad as woman because I wouldn't want him to experience what I'm going through :)

Thanks for the reply, I appreciate it! Now I need to run since my 3 year old is yelling "MOMMY!!" LOL The joys :)

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      Hi there @ScubaSteeve and welcome to the website. If you have had genital HSV for 10 years there is a chance the testing did not distinguish type. The answers to the following questions will help a bit: - where are your outbreaks specifically and what frequency? - have you had any IgG antibody testing for HSV?
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      Hi LLS.... I'm very sorry you are having so much discomfort from this outbreak.... the first outbreaks are always the most troublesome but  they will get less aggressive as time passes.  I personally find that valacyclovir is much more effective than just acyclovir so you may want to ask your doctor about switching and seeing if that helps.  Ask your doctor on Saturday if you really need to take a higher dose.... and as WilsoInAus suggested, I would ask for a 1,000 mg tablets with at least a 90 day supply to start.  As for pain, you may want to ask your doctor for a Rx of Zovirax ointment.... it contains acyclovir and the ointment form calms the sores down and reduces friction.... it should lessen the pain down there. As for diet, many people, myself included, learn what foods often act as triggers for outbreaks.  I can tell you from experience that the following are big outbreak triggers for me:   1. Too much caffeine (I've basically stopped coffee and have learned to enjoy a variety of decaf teas) 2. Any kind of nuts - including corn and even popcorn 3. Chocolate 4. Too much alcohol - particularly red wines  5. If possible, avoid any kind of steroids/immunosuppressants like prednisone in high doses.... anything that suppresses your immune system will give the virus free rein to run amuck - I learned this the hard way! 6, Stress.... although easier said than done, it will help with your overall health.  Studies show that stress is a common HSV outbreak trigger.... try to find a way to lower your stress levels. 7. lack of sleep.... personally, if I get less than 6  hours of sleep this often leads to an outbreak within a day or two.... work at getting a good 7-8 hours of solid sleep each night (I often use melatonin to help here). Some people find certain vitamins that boost the immune system, like zinc, help with overall healing and can lessen the severity of outbreaks and possibly prevent some outbreaks.  I personally take a number of antiviral/anti-inflammatory/anti-oxidant herbs/vitamins not so much for my HSV2 but for overall health (I don't have the healthiest of diets so, I feel I need to supplement to offset my lousy diet).  A google search of supplements that help with herpes will provide you with a long list of vitamins/herbs that may be of benefit but, try not to get carried away - many/most won't make much, if any, difference.... but, you can always experiment. As WilsoInAus also mentioned, a healthy diet is likely your best option. I should also mention that while some find vitamin C to be helpful, I found it to have the opposite effect.... the more I took the more it seemed to provoke outbreaks.   Things are always the toughest after initial infection.... it's going to get better, trust me.  Stick with the antiviral meds daily, try not to obsess on the fact you've contracted this virus, and try to avoid some of those triggers relating to outbreaks.  With time the number of outbreaks starts to decline and when you do have an outbreak, they will become less virulent. As WilsoInAus mentioned, a lot of your achiness, pain and overall flu-like symptoms are related to the fact your immune system is adjusting to this virus.... these lousy symptoms are just your immune system in action working to do its best to fight this virus... with time these symptoms will also lessen and disappear.   I hope this helps in some way.... please let us know if you have more questions.... and remember, go easy on yourself right now.... turn to those things in your life that calm you and also distract you from obsessing over the virus situation.  You are going to be just fine.... just give yourself some time to get past this initial unpleasant phase.... it will get better, I promise.    
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