first time having sex with ghsv1.. worried!

[Sydney J]

Hi there.

I've recently been diagnosed with ghsv1 just over a month ago. Over the last few days I've had sex with my ex boyfriend who does not know I have the virus, and I'm pretty sure I didn't get it from him that's why I didn't tell him. Because we used to have sex unprotected he was confused why we had to use one. The first 2 times we used a condom. The third time it broke and I didn't realise. The third time was unprotected. I do not have an ob at the moment. I'm so worried and I know it was so stupid. I really hope he does not get it. How likely is it that he will contract the virus? I feel horrible!

[JBnATL]

There is always a chance of passing this along especially in the first 6 months after having acquired the virus.

However, hsv1 does not like to be genital and is much more difficult to pass along. Here is a link to a good article that talks about hsv 1 & 2. http://herpes.com/hsv1-2.html In it it states

So far we've been talking about transmission of HSV-1 or 2 from its site of preference. What about transmission from another site? Say you acquire genital HSV-1 through oral sex. Can you spread the virus to a partner through genital sex?

The answer is yes, but probably not as easily as it was spread through oral sex. The main reason is that the virus reactivates and sheds less often outside its site of preference. Only about one quarter of people with genital HSV- 1 shed virus at all in the absence of symptoms, while 55% of people with HSV-2 do (Wald, New England Journal of Medicine, 1995). "Shedding data appear to parallel recurrence data, meaning that people who have a lot of recurrences also have a lot of shedding," says Wald.

While HSV- 1 can be spread from genitals to genitals, "we think it is spread more easily through oral sex because HSV-1 reactivates more frequently in the oral area," says Wald. However, she warns, "transmission of genital HSV-1 during asymptomatic shedding has been documented." In other words, genital HSV-1 can be spread through genital sex, even when there are no symptoms. "Good" Virus/ "Bad" Virus

Some doctors tell patients with ghsv1 that they do not need to disclose, but I disagree since the chance is there, although remote.

Has he ever had a cold sore? If so, he has antibodies in his blood to hsv1 which will offer some protection from him getting it.

Come to the Chat Room, there you will meet many nice Herpsters who can offer you their support.

Good luck!

JB

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yes it possible you could of given it to him . good chance you dident. you have herpis 1 meaning orally not gentically so unless you were giving him oral sex without a rubber or kissing him it unlikely to get it. after all the rubber or going without a rubber one time when you dont have herpies 2 is unlikely

the thing to do now is to own up to what you did. you need to tell him so he can be tested even if he decides to leave you you owe it to him to tell him. he has a right to know

and in the future remmember alway tell before you perform and even then never without protection .

[norcallove]

@Withbaggage - just to clarify - you can HSV 1 orally or genitally. While HSV1's preferred location is orally it can be spread to the genitals. It is typically spread that way through oral sex. Sydney J said she had GHSV1 - meaning genital nor oral. Therefore, it could be spread genital to genital.

Sydney J - JBnATL gave you a lot of great info. If you are taking antivirals it decreases the chance of spreading even more. I agree with Withbaggage that you should tell him and you should always tell in the future. It is just the honest thing to do and that will give your partners the option to make a decision. Plus, then you won't have to worry or stress about wondering if you gave it to someone. I know it is hard to tell, but it is the best thing to do. Take care hun.