very graphic and detailed...but I suspect....

[HOL11]

I think I know how I got this. I'm going to explain and maybe some of you can tell me if this sounds legit or if I'm just over-thinking everything. Sorry for the gross details. Ok here we go...

To start, my outbreak was strictly anal.

I have only been with one other person in my life, 4 years ago. Everything was vaginal or oral. Nothing anal.

I have been with my fiancée for 2.5 years. Again, everything has been vaginal (condom every time) or oral, with one exception; a few times in the shower, he would rub the tip of his penis between my butt checks, not all the way in, but unprotected.

That area is exactly where my outbreak is. I have a feeling I got it from my fiancée. He has never had an outbreak (that we know of) but he has been with six people so its possible that he does have it.

Does any of this sound at all possible?

[MsLucy]

Where your obs materialize does not mean that's where the original point of infection was. It only means that was the easiest route for the virus to make it's way through your nerves to the surface. A genital ob can occur anywhere in the 'boxer' area, regardless of where the virus originally entered your body.

If your fiance hasn't been tested, it would be a good idea. If he tests negative, you'll know you didn't get it from him. If he tests positive, it's a good posibility.

[schmack]

Have you been diagnosed by a doctor?

If your initial OB occurred shortly after an anal exposure, that's most likely how you got it.

Occasionally, anal OB's do follow genital infections. So it is also possible that you were infected genitally, didn't have a recognizable initial genital infection, and then it later recurred anally.

More info about the timeline of your ob'(s?) may help us sort it out. Although it doesn't matter too much since an initial anal infection still usually causes genital shedding and vice versa.

[Teex]

I have to agree with Schmack have you been diagnosed by a Doctor or are you assuming that you have it?

[HOL11]

I went to the ER in pain, they checked, and said it was herpes. Not to mention I had the swollen lymph nods, flu symptoms, and chills

[misshoneybee]

Hi HOL11. Ihope you're not in much pain. Have you talked to your fiancee about it now? At least if you both have it and are committed to each other, the spread of GHSV won't really be an issue.

Did you get medication from the ER?

[HOL11]

Yes my fiancee and I have talked about. We still aren't sure if he gave it to me or not. The ER gave me loritabs, lidocaine, and aclovir (spelling??)

[package deal]

do not start the blaming game. Sense y ou are going to get married does it really matter who gave what to whom? It quite possible either one of you could of had it and not known. If you both start blaming the other who gave what to whom it could put stress and resentment for each other, however he should still be tested that way if he tests neg you both know what steps to take to make sure he does not get it