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I just found out that my now ex that gave me GH has a new girl and is moving on... He gets coldsores on his lips...Not only did it ruin our relationship that was already on the rocks. Now every time I take a pill or have an outbreak its a constant reminder of him :'( I was so confident and now i feel so guilty when a guy flirts with me and i just put my head down and run off... I know no one in there right mind would want to be with me :( I just turned 26 and don't want live anymore but I'm to much of a punk to kill myself :'( Why is there no cure or better treatment out there?? Having to keep this secret is eating away at me. And finding out that my ex is moving on and him knowing that he give me GH I feel like he is using that Amo to make it easier for him to move on. I HATE MY LIFE!! I HATE HERPES FOR RUINING MY LIFE!!! :madd::madd:

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I know exactly what u mean!i'm in the exact same scenario!my ex also has a new girl who he has moved on with and im left to lick my wounds. i am extremely upset that there are treatments for gonorrhea, chlamydia and syphillis and nothing for herpes and im also mad that herpes increases your risk of HIV contraction. i am absolutely scared of sex now and a lot of people say im pretty and ask why im single and i have like 3 guys lined up wanting to have some sort of relationship with me but i have dismissed them all because i dont have the guts to tell them what i have( they would see me as a whore and run for their lives)! not knowing i got this from a relationship that i was faithful in. Sometimes i wonder what i did to deserve this....i dont care if people say it is a minor skin virus but i also hate my life with this stupid virus!

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It will get better, you will learn to be confident, you really will.

I had an abusive ex-boyfriend who intentionally infected me with herpes. We had split up and he went travelling and I assume picked up on his travel as he had not had it before. Then when he came back and I made it clear I was leaving the country and no longer wanted to be involved with him. He threatened my family with violence to get me to sleep with him and gave me oral with a cold sore. Later he tracked me down through the internet and told me I deserved to suffer for ruining his life! Bastard!

BUT that was 9 years ago. Since then I have had 5 sexual partners. Admittedly I was misinformed for a long time: my dr told me that on the medication I had no chance of transmitting it which isn't exactly true. And I also choose to bury my head in the sand for a long time. But with all those men I told...normally before sex but not always. There is one guy I didn't tell for a long time, and when I did his issue was not with the herpes but with me not telling him. Four of those relationships lasted about 2 years, and one was a few months. In three cases I worked myself up into telling and it turned out they had it too!

The thing is I have herpes, I am a single mother, I am okay looking but no model and I can be very stubborn. And I have found attractive and intelligent men who have chosen to take that on anyway. So don't despair...you can have a romantic/sex life.

With herpes you do learn to be a little bit more picky, but that is not a bad thing. You are less inclined to fall into bed and so build relationships before sex (which is really the better way to do it). And in the end you know if you tell somebody and they stick around they really are a better class of person.

In fact I have found I have had better sex in some ways since I have had herpes than before...because I have learnt to be more discerning and more compassionate. I appreciate what sex is about rather than just using it to feel good or manipulate men.

I am sure a lot of whores get herpes...but a huge number of virgins get it too. In fact if you add mono, chickenpox, HSV 1 and HSV 2 together I think you would be pretty hard pressed to find a person who has never been in contact with the herpes virus in some form or other.

Arm yourself with facts, be brave...you will survive and you will thrive!

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That's how I feel as well. :(

I feel like his manipulation, lies and callousness are my pain. But anyway, I think I'll move on and find a wonderful man. I think this made me rethink what I want in life and give up on casual sex. I could've gotten something worse! I was actually pretty happy when I didn't have HIV.


you shouldn't shoo these men away, who knows? They may be in the same pickle as you. And maybe they'll like you so much that they will want to be with you rather than run away.

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