Scared

[dumdumdancer]

My boyfriend and I just broke up... not sad about the actual brake up, I'm a strong person. I'm just scared that now I have to actually deal with how I feel as a person who has a STD. Before while I was in the relationship everyday he would affirm that I was beautiful and still a wonderful person regardless of a STD, now I don't have that affirmation. I know that to be truly happy I must affirm that independently but he has helped me so much to not feel as terrible about myself. But now... ugh I need help I need ways and methods to deal with the fear that I might be alone in life as love is harder to come by when you have a std, and I need help affirming that there is still a place for me in society.

[WarriorKing]

Love is not harder to come by. Casual sex might be, but those engaging in that are passing around other problems as well. Realize that only you can affect your mind.

[JBnATL]

Don't let this limit who you date. I have dated many non h and have never had a problem. There are h dating sites if you want to look there. mpwh.net and positivesingles.com are two of the more popular ones.

And on the list on the right, click on "Herpes Support Groups" there are many in California. The one here in the ATL really helped me out.

Come to the Chat Room, there you will find many nice Herpsters who can offer you their support.

Good luck!

JB

[dumdumdancer]

Thanks guys! I just don't feel confident enough any more about my sexuality to be in a relationship. I guess it's good that I'm not in one anymore cause it wasn't benefiting me or the partner in the long run for me to just be pushing away how I felt. I'm just afraid of the judgement and stigmatism. But thanks again for responding and the advice