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So I got the results from the doctor today confirming I have genital HSV-2. Somehow I was hoping that I had HSV-1 as it seems less severe, but oh well you can always hope right! Any ways I have yet to inform a person I slept with over a week ago about my new diagnosis. At first I thought it might have been him who gave it to me, but my blood work came up positive. Well my IgG for HSV-2 was positive and my IgM was negative, which I think means a prior infection (even though this is my first outbreak). So now I have to get up the courage to not only tell this guy that he may have gotten herpes from me (if he didn't give it to me), but I also have to deal with the fact that he might tell everyone we know since we have mutual friends. I thought that I had come to terms with things and was starting to accept my fate, but today I woke up and found another sore appearing on me after the first round had just about cleared up! I spent all last week bed ridden and doing nothing because my outbreak was so bad! I don't think I can deal with that again... I also went out for dinner last night with some friends and I found it so hard to cope. It was my first night out after having symptoms all last week and I just don't feel normal. All I can think about is that I screwed up big time and now I have this cloud over me. I don't know what to do or who to talk to. My best friend is living near me, but I don't know if I should tell her. I am petrified of people finding out and I feel really dirty and like I just want to cut everyone out of my world. Will I ever feel normal again??? Does anyone else feel terribly alone??

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Tell the guy you have something going on down there and that he should get tested. He could be the one who gave it to you. Or you could have had it before and not known. Most people who have it don't know they do.

You don't really need to tell anyone other than those you are intimate with. If it will make you feel better come to the Chat Room, there you will find many nice Herpsters who can offer you their support.

Good luck!

JB

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Yes I will talk to him soon, either today or tomorrow if I can because I need to get it off my chest. I just feel like crap lately and last night I had the worst sleep. I felt out of body, like this isn't me. I don't feel like myself and I don't know if I will ever feel like myself. I can see why people feel suicidal after they get this diagnosis (I don't), because you feel pretty numb. I know it's not the end of the world and things could be a lot worse (I could have HIV or Cancer, etc etc) but I still feel like I brought this on myself... I really want someone to talk to and I actually don't find the chat room that helpful. I just don't know what to think or feel...

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Yes I will talk to him soon, either today or tomorrow if I can because I need to get it off my chest. I just feel like crap lately and last night I had the worst sleep. I felt out of body, like this isn't me. I don't feel like myself and I don't know if I will ever feel like myself. I can see why people feel suicidal after they get this diagnosis (I don't), because you feel pretty numb. I know it's not the end of the world and things could be a lot worse (I could have HIV or Cancer, etc etc) but I still feel like I brought this on myself... I really want someone to talk to and I actually don't find the chat room that helpful. I just don't know what to think or feel...
Blue your not alone.. I feel the same way and what your going thru is normal.. This virus literally brought me down to my knees, Its been a rough couple of months but you will get better as time goes by. I have my days, but i pretty new to this myself. Stay Strong Blue.
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