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misshoneybee

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My BF doesn't have herpes. He works away from home for 2 weeks at a time. He gets back tomorrow, I had a fabulously naughty day planned... And boom, I'm having an outbreak.

FURIOUS!

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He doesn't know you have herpes? TELL HIM! He can still get herpes from you. Haven't you ever heard of SHEDDING. It happens when you have herpes, even with no "outbreak" He could already have the virus from your unthoughtful "naughty days". My ex gave me herpes, he didn't tell me he had it and he would only have sex when he didn't have an outbreak. I ended up contracting the virus and i now hate my ex with a passion. Don't ruin another persons life. Thats just selfish.

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He doesn't know you have herpes? TELL HIM! He can still get herpes from you. Haven't you ever heard of SHEDDING. It happens when you have herpes, even with no "outbreak" He could already have the virus from your unthoughtful "naughty days". My ex gave me herpes, he didn't tell me he had it and he would only have sex when he didn't have an outbreak. I ended up contracting the virus and i now hate my ex with a passion. Don't ruin another persons life. Thats just selfish.

Um, where did I say he doesn't know? If you're going to give me a public telling off, check your facts before you go battering your keyboard.

How dare you post such utter drivel based on your own assumptions. You can take your assumptions, (a. that I didn't tell him, b. that I don't care enough about him to tell him, and c. that you're somehow telling me something I don't know.) and take a hike. You have no right to talk down to another member that way, I don't care if you're still in school.

The point in this rant is that I won't risk infecting him by having sex if I have an outbreak, it just would have been really nice not to have one. I do what I can to reduce the risk to my partner, but he knows there's a risk any time...

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Misshoneybee,

Aww..*Big hugs* honey! IT NEVER fails does it??!! You wait and wait and get all excited for....yay a wonderful OB.

I'm glad you nipped that 'comment' in the bud before I did dear, I probably wouldn't have been as nice as you were! Lol.

Well I hope you had/have a nice time anyways. I know just how much that sucks! If it's not your period it's your *friend*. Ain't life grand??

XXX

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Canada Daisy: This is only my second outbreak ever, if it thinks it's going to flair up every time I look forward to naughtyness I will NOT be impressed! My period is due in about a week so poor BF is not a happy bunny!

I hope idcanymore learns to check her facts in future beofore hurling abuse at someone, then looking like a fool. I don't think I'm being unreasonable expecting an apology for that little outburst. She really needs to understand that not all people with herpes are like the boy who infected her.

VTiny: Thank you :)

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idcanymore u should b more considerate of peoples feelings on this site people come here for support not to b judged or hurt. I expect ul apologize.

misshoneybee have u tried dynamiclear its supposed to b the most quickest way to get rid of an ob with only one application. If u decided to not have sex with ur partner u can always pleasure him in many other ways, but yer its a bummer u have an ob

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Thanks nice. BF really doesn't care if he gets h from me. He said that as long as sex doesn't hurt me, he's quite happy to risk catching it (we still use condoms.)

I am so lucky to have such a wonderful, understanding, thoughtful, considerate man in my life. He's been better at putting this into perspective than I have!

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