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:madd::madd: Yes thats right my friend (supposed) FRIEND! So i met this group of people down the pub and calld my friend to come down and hang. It was all cool that night had a good time... My friend jus came out shes gay and gets along very well with one of the bi sexual girls who acts like a total **** mind u. So my friend starts to be ignorant to my txts and calls and even sends me to the valley to meet her and this new **** bi sexual chick from the pub, so iget there and my friends arent there i try ringing and txting and spend the nite in town without my friends by myself. My FRIEND left her fone at home so all this meeting up came about from the new chicks txts. So a couple days later i run into them down at the pub together, im a bit pissed at my friend for not being where they were supposed to be in town. So i ask and she says she doesnt remember cause she was drunk, the new girl says they were at the local pub and laughs. BITCH!

So i decide to let it go and so we meet this guy in the smoking area and he offers to have drinks at his place so i said yer y not cause i felt like a free drink

( who doesnt) but the two girls dont wanna come they went home so i go to this guys house by myself, he then tells me that this stupid bitch that i hardly even know told him

:madd:Dont have sex with her because she has herpes!!!:madd:

Luckily he was nice about it to tell me and didnt seem to mind too much he was understanding about the virus but i jus burst into tears with embaressment, I WASNT PLANNING TO HAVE SEX WITH THIS GUY SO HE DIDNT NEED TO KNOW. So anyway ive only known this guy for 2 hours and he knows i have HERPES! And a complete fucking bitch stranger who i met less than a week b4 hand tells him because MY SO CALLED FRIEND told her my private business. So this guy continues on if i wear a condom i wont catch it.........BUT IM CRYING AND NOT PLANNING TO HAVE SEX WITH A STRANGER!

:wavey: So i said il jus go make us some drinks - I went into the kitchen put his bottle of vodka unda my arm and left ran down the street and went to my SO CALLED FRIENDS brothers house who im great mates with. HIS girlfriend was there to confort me while i cried in her lap for an hour.

Took a while to confront my FRIEND about it all and she seemed to b more on the other girls side because now all of a sudden theyr in a relationship after 1 week!@???

I did nothing to provoke this attack from this girl, my friend wasnt there for me, she said sorry but thats never gunna take away the scar of embaressment.

I put up with a week of horrible depression feeling so angry i wanna bash my friends head in and the other mole even harder.

iTS NOW A WEEK LATER AND THEYV NOW BROKEN UP, so im jus waiting for my friend who has usually been my closest to come running to me again. I dont wanna b her friend anymore but ive been friends with her broother for 4 years and they live together so i dont know what to do.

my FRIEND gets coldsores on her lips occassionally also and i said to her i would never think about telling anybody about this as its none of my business.

I just wanna know who died and made these bitches god to talk shit about me and my sexual health to anybody.

I really angry.

Please any support comments are welcomed this is a hard time for me. Thnx

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I would find some other friends! I had a friend kinda do that to me, I could kinda understand, strange circumstances. But THIS was way out of line! I'm sorry it happened to you.

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Not only that Jb i need a new vagina

Well if you find a place with a new vagina....see if they have any cocks there too. We can go together, it can be a date!

On a serious note i think its time to reevaluate your friends or friend.

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Well if you find a place with a new vagina....see if they have any cocks there too. We can go together, it can be a date!

Aggghhh, sounds like a good idea, mine's all chaffed and itchy feeling. and I want to see if I trade for a bigger one.

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The truth is, when we tell someone, even a very close friend, about something intimate, there is a chance, and a pretty good one if the friend is young, that within a fairly short time, every person in that crowd and a few strangers will know about it. People in general are not good at keeping confidences and young people are terrible at it. When you tell someone a "secret," that person may swear not to tell anyone but that person always has an exception in mind; a sister they always tell everything to, their mother, a very close friend, someone. They don't really consider it betraying a confidence if the person they tell is someone close to them (in this case a short term lover, very immature) and if they swear that person to absolute secrecy. The problem is, the person they tell swears secrecy but that person has someone who is THEIR exception, too. It's a shame, but that is the way it works. Even if the person you tell really does keep the confidence private and doesn't tell anyone....you never know who might sneak a peek at her/his diary, or who might be listening in on an extension phone or reading an email.

It should be of some comfort to you that the guy you visited with wanted to have sex with you anyway! That ought to let you know that this will not ruin your reputation quite as badly as you think. When I came out of my herpes closet and told my friends (after ten years of silence on the subject), and told them to tell everyone they/I knew, several old pals immediately let me know that THEY have it, too. And I got some messages from friends like: "I can't give you a name because he asked me not to....but there's someone you are acquainted with who really, really wants to see you again. He has hardly left the house since he got a divorce..." Once the news is out that you have it, several good things can happen: People in your crowd who have it will seek you out, maybe want to date you. You will have a much easier time having the dreaded "talk" because a lot of people already know about it.

Meanwhile...you need to find a better, more honest, more mature friend. This gossipy idiot is not your friend. She needs to grow up and discover the value of a real friendship. If it were me, I'd be considering some kind of revenge and the only thing that might stop me would be the desire to have nothing whatsoever to do with her again, even in my thoughts.

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