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I just got my culture back last week positive for hsv-2. I guess I have been having my OB now for 3 or 4 weeks now depending on what you count as the start. I am still way freaked out and trying to deal with my own situation and my GF's situation. She had a positive high igG and believes it just means exposed, I believe she is positive. I have tried to talk about this a couple of time and she freaks, doesn't want to have it, it implies she gave it to me not me to her, yada yada. I have a million questions though and am missing some FAQ page and am driving myself even more crazy searching, searching, and searching here. I have asked a couple already and responses have been helpful. Here are my other questions (or some of them):

1. If you eat something that is a trigger while in an OB does it extend it?

2. Do the Prodromal symptoms persist through out the OB, or are they a sign of more OB starting?

3. If both partners have HSV-2 in the genital area is there a risk and how great of getting it in the mouth area from oral sex? Is it lessened if it is the same strain?

4. Is the OB over when the sores scab over or is it when the redness is completely gone?

5. I was taking protein drinks to control weight and regain muscle lose from illness, is there any protein drinks that are ok given this whole Lysine/Arginine thing?

6. Is there any diet plan with actual sample meals available or just a list of Lysine/Arginine ratios?

7. Since all signs are I got it from my current GF do I still need to notify previous partners?

8. Is it better to tell you friends or not?

9. Would it be easier if everyone knew or no one but people you are about to have sex with?

10. How likely is a false positive on the igG type specific at 3.49 with no type 1?

11. Until my GF accepts she is positive should I refrain for any sexual contact until her 3 or 6 month retest? For fear she will then just say I gave it to her after the first test?

12. How much time do you have between prodromal symptoms and OB? So you can react.

13. If I stay on a maintenance dose because my GF is negative how do I develop the knowledge of what is a trigger, or what is prodromal and what is all in my head?

14. I have type 2 and about the same time I had my OB in the boxer region I got a "pimple like" break out on my chest. No cluster blister stuff. Could that also be herpes?

15. Should I get blood tests at 3 and 6 month to check antibody levels or is that pointless?

16. Is it better to just try and let it go, or educate at this point?

17. Are you just better off trying to find someone else who is also positive?

18. Regardless of dating another positive or negative person, should you just not date until after your first year or so of getting it?

19. When it is said someone can have it for years and not know, does that mean they test negative for the antibodies or they just never has symptoms and never got tested, but if they had gotten tested the antibody test would be positive?

20. If you take large doses of Lysine (> 2500mg) do you still need to worry about the L/A ratio in your foods?

21. Do anti-anxiety or anti-depressant medications help decrease OB's?

22. If you do try dating other positives is there some kind of pecking order newbie's should be aware of?

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I just got my culture back last week positive for hsv-2. I guess I have been having my OB now for 3 or 4 weeks now depending on what you count as the start. I am still way freaked out and trying to deal with my own situation and my GF's situation.

She had a positive high igG and believes it just means exposed, I believe she is positive. I have tried to talk about this a couple of time and she freaks, doesn't want to have it, it implies she gave it to me not me to her, yada yada.

Then she has HSV. Or she carries HSV ... same difference. Was the test strain specific?

1. If you eat something that is a trigger while in an OB does it extend it?

Maybe yes maybe no. Everyone is different.

2. Do the Prodromal symptoms persist through out the OB, or are they a sign of more OB starting?

Prodrome means warning sign. But something like itching or pain can continue through the OB.

3. If both partners have HSV-2 in the genital area is there a risk and how great of getting it in the mouth area from oral sex? Is it lessened if it is the same strain?

If both partners have HSV2, and have had it for some time so that they each have antibodies built up then it is rare for them to self infect or infect each other elsewhere. Good hygiene is always appropriate during an outbreak, and sex is not a good idea at that time.

4. Is the OB over when the sores scab over or is it when the redness is completely gone?

Cannot say. I always waited until the skin was solid and back to normal. Didn't worry about color.

5. I was taking protein drinks to control weight and regain muscle lose from illness, is there any protein drinks that are ok given this whole Lysine/Arginine thing?

I personally have had no issue with any protein drink. You have to test for yourself.

6. Is there any diet plan with actual sample meals available or just a list of Lysine/Arginine ratios?

Never heard of that. People usually determine what works for them

7. Since all signs are I got it from my current GF do I still need to notify previous partners?

Totally depends on your situation.

8. Is it better to tell you friends or not?

Only those that you totally trust and are telling for support reasons, if you need support. Otherwise they don't need to know.

9. Would it be easier if everyone knew or no one but people you are about to have sex with?

Just who you may have sex with.

10. How likely is a false positive on the igG type specific at 3.49 with no type 1?

I dunno. You can always retest.

11. Until my GF accepts she is positive should I refrain for any sexual contact until her 3 or 6 month retest? For fear she will then just say I gave it to her after the first test?

If she retests today and is positive then she is positive. All else is mental and emotional.

12. How much time do you have between prodromal symptoms and OB? So you can react.

Different for every person.

13. If I stay on a maintenance dose because my GF is negative how do I develop the knowledge of what is a trigger, or what is prodromal and what is all in my head?

Just monitor it with time and look for definite physical symptoms.

14. I have type 2 and about the same time I had my OB in the boxer region I got a "pimple like" break out on my chest. No cluster blister stuff. Could that also be herpes?

Don't know. Good chance not herpes.

15. Should I get blood tests at 3 and 6 month to check antibody levels or is that pointless?

If you have had an outbreak and a positive culture, then personally, I would believe it. If you want to see if you have both strains then you could blood test.

16. Is it better to just try and let it go, or educate at this point?

Education is always good. And will help you let go any emotional or mental baggage.

17. Are you just better off trying to find someone else who is also positive?

It depends on you and your personal outlook. And it sounds like your gf is positive already.

18. Regardless of dating another positive or negative person, should you just not date until after your first year or so of getting it?

That is not true at all, especially with other positive persons. You cannot get it twice.

19. When it is said someone can have it for years and not know, does that mean they test negative for the antibodies or they just never has symptoms and never got tested, but if they had gotten tested the antibody test would be positive?

It means they never had any noticeable symptoms. The antibody test would likely be positive. But the antibodies have to be of a certain density in order to test positive.

20. If you take large doses of Lysine (> 2500mg) do you still need to worry about the L/A ratio in your foods?

If you take lysine it helps in that regard. I don't know about dosage.

21. Do anti-anxiety or anti-depressant medications help decrease OB's?

Don't know

22. If you do try dating other positives is there some kind of pecking order newbie's should be aware of?

No. People with herpes are just people. Like people with the flu. And a relationship built only on herpes is not a relationship at all.

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MrHonest,

Thank you very much for taking time to answer all my questions. It does help me keep my mind from racing and be more focused and not doing "what if" over things I know nothing about at this point. To answer your question her tests were what I am coming to understand as the full battery. Her igG type specific tests came back positive for Type 2 at 3.49. igG combo was positive, igM was negative as was igG Type 1.

What do you mean by the skin being "solid and back to normal" when you talk about the OB being over?

Also, if I still have tingling does that mean I am still having an OB or is it common to continue even after the OB has ended? Does it mean I am having another OB already?

Thanks,

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Hi, I am glad someone answered your questions, I will add a few personal experiences of my own, hopefully they will help.

I am new here but I have had herpes for over 30 years, have been married for almost 25 and my partner has never had an outbreak. My doctor says he may have them but so far he hasn't shown signs but he does have an amazing immune system. How have I managed? I am very careful...never have sex when I even think I have an outbreak coming and I wait until ALL signs are completely gone. We manage...quite well. I have never told any of my friends but this is a different age and time but I would not want to be the butt of someone else's jokes so I kept quiet when I was young and now I don't feel the need to discuss it with anyone except my partner and my doctor. I think the secret is to know as much about it as you can and be respectful to other people by not having sex when you feel any symptoms coming on...like tingling, pain in the affected area, or flu like systems. Stick to having meaningful relationships, share with your partner and he/she will be understanding.

That's my two cents worth. Take care...

I don't even think of it when I am not having an outbreak which over the years has only been maybe one or two a year. I am a relatively healthy person with a good immune system, so take care of yourself, exercise and eat healthy.

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Hang in there. I'm four days out from diagnosis and know how you feel. And have some of the same questions. Everyone says this will get "better". It is hard to believe it right now - but let's try.

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I am with you CraigH. It's hard at this point. I have experience dealing with others issues and it seems impossible at times to do what I would suggest/recommend to others. I did reach out to a friend who has had it for 10 years. I had forgot he told me. We are going to meet so I can talk to him about it. I think for me one of the hardest things is being a "newbie" it seems so much that it is trial and error, and things get better over time. I tell myself that I am better off having gotten it in my 40's rather than 20's but at the same time I don't feel like I have 10 good years to wait to get a full handle on it and have it be just a nuisance. I know it sounds like a guy thing but I wish it would this 1st OB would clear up so I could have sex again. That has always been a big part of my life and I can't help but feel like it is over now, even though everyone says it is not.

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It was kind of someone to respond to your questions. I think I will post some of mine -where ever you do that in this system. I'm glad that you have someone to talk with...at least at the moment... I have no one. It sounds like you have people helping skills. Use them all for yourself now. That is what I am struggling to do...listen to my best advice for someone else in this situation.

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Thanks Craig. It is tough for me to use them on myself. So quickly my own mind plays tricks and I double back on myself constantly. I am sorry there is not someone locally you can talk to. I will certainly pass on whatever I get from my friend good or bad. I see that you are a bit older than me but married so I would think that might help, at least following the logic that is freaking me out about finding a lasting relationship if the one I was starting does not survive this. I am not sure it helps but I will friend you on this site and you can talk to me through PM or via these threads so others might benefit as well.

As far as following your own best advice, I would agree. I just wish I had been doing that all along with the things that lead me to this point. Not that I am blaming myself for getting H... much anyway. But I do take responsibility for my actions... so far anyway.

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MrHonest,

What do you mean by the skin being "solid and back to normal" when you talk about the OB being over?

If you have any kind of cut anywhere on your body it can be exposed, then scabbed, then the scab is gone but the skin is tender. The next step in the process is when the skin feels normal like the rest of the skin on your body. That is what I mean.

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