I honestly can't tell anymore if I'm breaking out or not. I mean, I felt a tingle in my penis a couple days ago. I looked into my urethra just now and it looks like abrased but it's very shallow and mild. I feel like my urethra always looks abrased now though. I'm posting this too after she told me felt tingling again down there for a third time today.
I'm a bit confused about the waiting 10 weeks? I had similar symptoms to you on a Sunday (right after I had unprotected sex Saturday). I rode it out and got tested the following week Friday. Got my results back the following week, Tuesday. Was that too soon to have gotten tested? Should I retest now or wait 10 weeks? I am getting kind of the typical symptoms. Itching, sores are gone but a few are still idk not painful but sore at the touch. There is a weird pain or pressure in my butt and the back of my thighs. I get random shots of nerve pain. I know how you feel, being sure but also hoping that it could be something else. It's kind of trying. And it's great that you have at least been able to share this with your mom. I couldn't even dream of letting anyone else know and that hurts.
A huge pickle. I guess I find that with each passing day, things get better. It's not a death sentence, although socially it feels like one.
The Saturday morning sex was with a new partner, yes. He is African American as well.
The clinic that I went to, is a free state clinic, so I guess Herpes tests aren't typically on their panel but because I was freaking out a bit and crying at the Dr's, I think they tested me for it as well? I'm not sure if it was standard, but one of the clerks gathering my information in front told me that the clinic didn't test for herpes and recommended a hospital for me to go to get the test done. I had blood drawn, and also my finger pricked for the rapid HIV testing. And I think a culture or lesion swab.
Not sure about the last bit, I've been scouring this website a lot since finding out and it seems to me that women have painful OB's, and that they tend to be even more excruciating during your period. Which I'm dreading. I don't want to take any antibiotics yet, maybe if it becomes bad but I want to try to heal/prevent any OB's naturally with vitamins/oils/healthy mostly raw diet etc..
As far as it being common in the AA community, I have no doubt that it is. But AA's face so many stigmas within our community already, that we haven't tackled and refuse to, culture comes into play, lack of proper education and a host of other things. I don't think the fact that it's common within my community means that it's that little of an issue. We just haven't gotten around to speaking about it (as a collective community) yet.
Is it possible to find a different dr? The dr. should have taken a swab and tested for the type of herpes you have. Your boyfriend needs to specifically ask to be tested for the virus. Regular blood tests don't detect it, the test has to be specifically asked for. Also, having sex may or may not cause an outbreak. No one can predict when they will occur. I have them infrequently usually brought on by very high stress levels, not by having sex. Enjoy your sex life. After 28 years, I now consider this a skin condition. Sounds like you have a supportive boyfriend which helps. In most cases, outbreaks lessen over time. Read information from a reputable website. I like
cdc.gov. The info there is not conjecture, nor made up bs that others may be telling you. Good luck.
He never had any sores, as in never. The ob gyne looked upon my genitals and told me that it is herpes. That is the only information that I know.. and also, the ob told me that if I am going to have sex again with the same person, the outbreak will come back. My boyfriend got tested too, blood test.. and he was told that he does not have any infection. I told my doctor about the test that my boyfriend undergone but she told me that herpes virus cannot be diagnosed in blood testing. I am confused.
If your husband is prepared to take the risk then I think that you should stop focusing on the thought of being contagious. Remembering that the risk from women to men is quite low and you can take precautions.. but if you are having anxiety and itching that can be viral shedding so it would be worth you trying to look at how you can get that under control because then that will reduce your risk.
Well you need to establish whether it's type 1 or type 2 because just because it's on your genitals does not necessarily mean it is hsv2. This is important in terms of transmission risks. How did u test initially by swab or blood test Your boyfriend should also get tested then that way you both know what you are dealing with in terms of risks and precautions. If he has had cold sores and did oral sex on you then it is most likely to be hsv1 genital