I need help

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Two month ago i relocated to a different state from my girlfriend for work.

I have known my girlfriend for ten month we always used protection for sex, but no protection for the occasional oral sex on each other.

Well yesterday i got a call from her that her annual medical test results came, and that the doctor called her to tell her she tested positive for herpes, I think after she heard the word she freaked out and never asked anymore questions(whether HSV-1 or HSV-2). She claims she had no signs of herpes before and neither did i .

I am planning to go get tested soon, i am wondering how i could have it?

If we have been seeing each other for ten months it gotta be HSV-1.

And if it is HSV-1, i could have had it all along and not know either.

If it is HSV-2 I would be surprised because none of us have outbrakes and all the other symtoms.

Her main worry now is losing me. I told her not to worry till my test results come if i happen to have the same one she has, we stay together.

If it is different we might have to breakup.

(I don't know and i am confused i need some good advice)

Also some info on best places to get tested will be very appreciated.

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I had blood work done and tested positive for both type 1 and type 2 herpes. I never had any symptoms either and to make things even more stressful I was 6 months into a relationship where I was NOT using condoms. (we were using other methods of birth control) My boyfriend at the time got tested and came back negative for type 2 and positive for type 1. At least I didn't end up giving him herpes but I honestly have no idea how long I've had the virus for or who I got it from. I have an idea but nothing substantial... Anyway, condoms do help in protecting against contracting the virus but they are not a gaurntee as the virus can be active in a location that is not covered by the condom. But then, as I know from my case, it is also possible to not get the virus.

What I want to say to you is that when I found out I had herpes I was devastated and my boyfriend reacted much the same way you are now. While I understand that you're afraid for youself this isn't something that happened to you, it happened to your girlfriend and scared or not you should be there for her. It isn't easy news to digest at first.

You could have it and you could have given it to her. Or she could have it and have given it to you. Or she could have it and you could not. Or you could both have it from previous relationships. How do you tell for sure? Unless you test negative you really don't.

I have a thread called "A little painful". Read it. I was dumped after we had been together for 10 months and after 4 months of waiting for my boyfriend to accept me. It was a horrible time, it was a horrible experience.

I haven't updated the thread but last night my ex boyfriend asked me to come over and he wanted us to get back together. He apologized and says that herpes is a non issue. I can't forget the pain he put me through.

If you love this girl it should not matter if she has herpes or not. Read some of the articles on this site and get the facts. But to have her wait till you get your test results back to know the status of your relationship is totally cruel. If you have it she's good enough for you and if you don't she's not? If that's the way you manage your heart she's too good for you. If herpes can break up your relationship, after 10 months no less, maybe it isn't stronng enough to deal with a lot of things.. Like life. So wether you have it or not, maybe you should make up your mind now so she isn't put through what I was. It was one of the most depressing times of my life, to feel like my worth was dependent on someone else. Truly, that is the worst part of this STD.