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I was just diagnosed on Monday with GH. I live with my bf who so far has not had a breakout. Of which, neither of us knew we, or just I, had this virus. Of course, with me being the one having the breakout, I am being blamed. Even though I havent been sexual with anyone else in the last 5 months. And he hasn't either. That I know of. I was having a breakout over the weekend, although I did not know at the time that I had GH. My bf and I had intercourse while I had the open sores the day before I found out what I had. I actually did a random STD check a month ago and came back clean. So here are my questions:

IF by chance I was the carrier and not him, what are the chances that he caught it when we had intercourse during my breakout?

If I had the virus a month ago when I was STD checked, would they have been able to see it?

I heard you can have the virus for years and never know it, but I keep reading that you can have a breakout within 2 weeks of being exposed. Is that true?

My bf has the HSV1. He gets a sore on his lip usually twice a year. Ive read that sometimes that can cause HSV2...how true is that?(he does not do oral sex so I am not sure if that could be what happened without his face touching 'down there')

Is SEVERE itching and discharge normal during an outbreak? How long does it last?

The doctor did NOT do any tests. He just went by what he saw on me. And diagnosed it as GH. I have all the sores, itching, d/c, etc. But is there a chance I could have something else? Maybe i am just in denial still.

My bf and I have been off and on for 3.5 years...but for the last 5 months neither of us have been with anyone else. Well, I know I haven't, and I really don't think he has been either, but with this happening it makes me wonder. I am still in shock! I have always been a "careful" person. Or I thought so anyways. I have only told one person(other than my bf) but I figured it would help to talk with people who have it too. Of course my bf is pointing fingers at me since I am the one having the breakout. I am just so confused and wonder how this could have happened if we havent been sexual with anyone else since we've been together. Thanks for the help

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Good Morning CLC, I've shared your same fears and have some similiar questions. I was in a long term relationship, over 10 years and currently in this relationship for 2 years. My bf nor myself had ever had any symptoms or out breaks until I had one 3 weeks ago, just days after New Years. Little did I know my new year would start out horribly, I had very high hopes for this year too...

I'll be interested to see what responses you get to your questions as I have some of the of same ones.

Life will go on and things will get better, this is what I keep telling myself as I continue to read the posts. I'm still waiting for total acceptance even though I'm still trying to wrap my brain around it.

Thanks for your post and be positive....


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