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It’s been a little over a month since I was diagnosed. Besides all of the other stress going on in life and the stress of being positive for H, I have to now find another way to relieve all of my tension. I listen to music, watch tv, hang out with friends, but that still is no substitute for some good sex. I have to admit that I am still in the stage where I don’t see how I will ever enjoy sex again. Nevertheless, I would love to give my ex-buddy a good long bj (I miss his penis in my mouth) and let him f*ck me until my back goes out (I miss his penis in my vagina). I just miss his penis lol. Why does herpes not have a cure? This SUCKS!!!!!

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You need to go shopping for some toys!!!

You need to go shopping and buy yourself a good vibrator! Lol. Hey, until I get over this all alone feeling. It is sex for one. Try a rabbit! I hope I didnt offend you. It sure helps me take the edge off.

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LOL. I have toys. I was nervous to use them, because I feel contagious; don't want to spread the disease to myself lol. I did end up using my toys, but that's still no replacement for a good stiff one.

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LOL! Girl, you just made me laugh so hard. Try positive singles. I didn't find the love of my life there, but met a sexy guy or two for "companionship". Best of luck! And I'm sure your "buddy" would still love that b.j.

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Yes..thanks for making me laugh. I looked up positive singles...just to look the free way. I am not ready to pay yet. I have still decided to stay single for the rest of my life. Now, I am just looking for more friends to hang with. Keep us informed. I will have to live my fantasies through you for now! Best of luck!

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I miss it tooooooo! its driving me a little bit crazy. think toys must be the way forward- the only thing is i'm in student accomodation so vibrators are kinda noisy!!! need to find a quiet one. xx

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Herpes is not the end of your sex life. I've been diagnosed with HSV2 since July 2010

and I screw like a rabbit still (with my fiancee of course) :)

Don't let Herpes tell you what you can and cannot do. Just be CAREFUL doing it, thats all :)

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I want some so bad lol. People continuously say that they have H and still have sex, but in the same breath say their in a relationship. What about us single people? Not really interested in positive singles, because I'm not intersted in just having sex and I've found that's what most guys are on dating sites for (that's not my style). HOWEVER, I couldn't imagine having the H conversation with a new guy that I meet so online dating here I come! (sad face)

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If you take valtrex (suppressive therapy) and use condoms, the chance of you passing HSV on, if you aren't having an outbreak, is less than 2 to 3%. The chance of you having unprotected sex and picking up a STD from someone else is much greater than that. Also, the chance of anyone being exposed to herpes is greater than this 2 to 3% given 33% of the female population has hsv2.

Further, I keep hearing there will be a coated condom that will hit the market this year that is likely to offer a lot of protection for both you and a partner. I know this isn't the answer you are looking for but it is some options for you to consider.

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I'm a very sexual guy, but since I'm still in the unsure-if-positive faze, I'm not having sex for a while anyways. I completely understand that masturbation isn't as good as the real thing, but that's what I'm sticking with till I find out for sure... and if I'm positive, then I'll be looking for positive singles.

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I have always been an intensely sexual person. I am going to have to check out this positive singles thing. I was hoping there was such a thing. I find toys too creepy and they are hard to snuggle with afterward! lol

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Keep us informed. I want to know how you all are doing. Good luck. I looked at positive singles the free way. I have not signed up to pay for it yet. Should I take supressive medication even though I have not had any symptoms?

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Maybe not. It can get expensive. I wouldn't worry about having sex with someone else with HSV if that is what you have. I never heard of an infection on top of an infection.

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I miss it tooooooo! its driving me a little bit crazy. think toys must be the way forward- the only thing is i'm in student accomodation so vibrators are kinda noisy!!! need to find a quiet one. xx

I have a glass dildo...its the best...super quiet, hits the spot and it just feels much more "hygienic" :-)

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I have a glass dildo...its the best...super quiet, hits the spot and it just feels much more "hygienic" :-)

I have what is called a Jelly Sleeve. Nothing is as good as the real thing but this thing is super fun.. lol

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OH my god I feel the EXACT same before I got genital herpes I used to have so much fun and right now I cannot remember the last time I had 'fun'!

Ive had a rabbit for a couple years, always used it but now I'm just never in the mood!

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Has anyone got any tips to how to get in the mood despite knowing that I've got herpes??

Well.. for me, I usually find someone that is open minded or comfortable talking about it. I'm sometimes on yahoo with a friend. Sometimes even using web cams. If that isn't your thing, there are lots of sites with erotic fiction that are really good (I use to write some years ago). Sometimes that helps me too.

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Wowee thanks! I was thinking more along the lines of blocking it out, personally I don't need media to inspire myself I mean I get hot it's just the knowing that kinda ruins it?

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